I hope that you you have been able tinker with the scooters over the past few days. I’ve been told that the “men in the shed” group has a waiting list to join which is a bit of a blow but I’ll see if I can get some more information. I have to say that the main problem at the moment with me is a lack of motivation, anything more than sitting watching the TV is a real effort. I’ve received an invitation to my half sister’s 80th birthday this coming Saturday. However its near Glasgow and its really too far for me to travel at the moment. So I’ve going to decline but say that I hope that one of my (grown up) daughters will travel with me up for a visit early in May.
Also causing grief is stomach ache and finding it difficult to sleep after 6am in the morning! Then of course I’m down in the dumps during the day! All advice gratefully received.
Well that’s enough depression for one letter. As I’ve said all advice gratefully receieved.
I Hope that you have been able to tinker with the scooters over the past few days. I’ve found out that there may be a waiting list to join the chaps in the shred
Today is valentine’s day and of course there’s no-one to whom I can send a card, stilI I won’t be the only one in this situation.
@mikes
Hi Mike, yes I’ve managed a little time out working on my Scooters in between the poor weather, just getting one ready to go for a new MOT as it happens. Shame about the Men in a Shed waiting list, hopefully the wait to join isn’t too long. I also have difficulty sleeping at night, i used to be quite a sound sleeper but now wake regularly between 3am - 4am & struggle to get back off again. I’d advise a trip to the Doctor regarding the stomach issue as you never can be too careful & it may help with your sleeping problem if you can ascertain a root cause.
My Wife Anna never believed in Valentines Day, she always said people who want to gift flowers & chocolates should do it because they want to not because society says we have to on a pre - determined day, having said that my Daughter bought me some beautiful flowers which was very thoughtful of her. Hopefully your Daughter will accompany you on your trip up to Glasgow in May, that will make for a nice break for you & who knows the weather may even have improved a little by then. Take care fella & drop me a message anytime x
Hi
It is 15 weeks since my husband of 46 years died. I have been trying to find a bereavment group but no luck. Do people on this website ever meet? I live in Stockport
My wife died in mid November 2023. I’ve found bereavement information so far from; the local district general hospital and the Sue Ryder and the Cruse bereavement services.
Hope this is useful
VillaBoy22
Hope that the following is helpful.
I’ve come across a book entitled “Scooterama”. It’s a history of motor scooters from1946 to the present day. I came across the above in the March 2024 issue of “PostScript”, books by post, tel no. 01626 897100, book ref no, 516913 price £6.99. If you’d like me to buy it on your behalf please let me know.
In the meantime I hope that this is a better day for all of us. Let me know how you are getting along. As I think I said earlier, I’m going to have to get used to living most of the time on my own, so here goes! I’ve got a few ideas on what to do but implementation is another matter. I was gong to go to a local coffee morning today but I over slept! Hoping that this is a good sign! I;ll attempt to get to the next coffee morning next week.
I’ll let you know how things go. All advice welcome
All the best
Dear Villa Boy
I got to the next coffee morning, not a particularly friendly group, still it was the 1st time so I’ll try it again once or twice and see how it goes. I didn’t get to the gathering in Scotland but am in the process of arranging a meeting for later in the spring for my daughter and I to fly up to Edinburgh and meet some step-relatives. My son and his new fiancee are coming to visit all well and good this coming Friday. My other son is talking about regular Monday evening meetings which sound promising. My late wife’s brother is talking about having another lunch out and a chat sometime next week. His problem is that of being overwhelmed by requested for him to volunteer at the local swimming club. Last but not least, I’m going to my older daughter’s for Easter Sunday lunch.
Having written all this down I hope that this means there’s a bit of light at the end of the tunnel for us both. Let me know if you got the info about the scooter books, I’m not sure that all my emails are getting through. Nothing conspiratorial, just me being my technophobe self! This is one of the reasons I have also booked myself into a course in basic computer skills!
Keep in touch
@mikes
Hi mike, Sorry i haven’t replied sooner but I’ve had a pretty bad couple of weeks being honest not helped at all by the fact that it was our 31st Wedding Anniversary last Thursday that i really struggled with. It’s only been going to work that’s kept me from going under completely i think.
I’m so pleased to hear that you’ve been finding things to fill up your time, even though the coffee morning hasn’t been a roaring success yet keep at it, it may get better. I’ve been going over to my Daughter’s on a Friday most weeks & staying over as just having a bit of company for that little bit of time does help quite a bit. My Son is off on a trip to the USA this coming Saturday, going to San Francisco for three nights & then 4 nights in Las Vegas ending up getting married there on Good Friday. He & his partner have been together for 10 years & have 2 gorgeous little girls so hopefully this will be the trip of a lifetime for them & will create some amazing memories.
Good to hear also that you you have regular contact planned with your children which is something i have become reliant on since my Wife’s passing, i think I’d be far worse off without that to look forward to.
As regards the Scooter books i do already have the Scooter Mania book you mentioned but Thanks for letting me know about it. The weather hasn’t been very kind so i haven’t managed to get out for a ride as yet but I’m hopeful that it will start to improve in the near future. Good to hear from you Mike & as i said apologies for not responding earlier. Take care & stay in touch mate.
Thanks for the email. Yes, hospital appointments knock us back, Even the smell of disinfectant brings unhappy memories.
Please wish your son and partner all the best for the forthcoming wedding. My cousin and his partner did much the same thing a few years ago and all went well.
Yes we must keep in touch, good to know that my email is working.
Just to say that I’ve come across another scooter book: The Motor Scooter Story by Barry John. It’s in the current issue of “PostScript”, order 01897100626 code no. 527889.
All the best, email to follow
Mike
We had a bit of a gathering on Easter Sunday at my/our house where there’s a bit more room for younger grand kids to run about in the garden. It went as well as can be expected. My/our daughter provided the food which was a great help. As others have said it was very quiet when they’d all gone. Next week I’ll try to get to the coffee morning and for lunch out with the brother-in-law and see what else turns up. I’ve also got the grass cut and i’m waiting for my roofer to mend a small hole in the roof.
Let me know how things are at your end, I’ m sure you’ll get loads of snaps of the wedding and the trip. Zoom etc is really helpful. Let me know how it goes.
@mikes
Hi Mike, good to hear you had a few people round to visit on Easter Sunday, when you spend a good chunk of time on your own its a big lift when people take time out to come & visit.
Hope the Coffee morning goes well & it’s great to hear your finding things to help fill your time. I too had a roof leak last year but ended up having the whole front side of the house re - felted & tiled with a new ridge system, a small repair wouldn’t have lasted long so i decided to get it done properly. The weather hasn’t been very good so It’s yet to be dry enough for me to cut my grass unfortunately.
The trip to the States for my Son & his now Wife was a huge success, they had an awesome time, took in some great sights, ( Alcatraz, Golden Gate Bridge, Hoover Dam, Grand Canyon etc ) & managed to win a couple of thousand pounds whilst doing a bit of gambling in Vegas so all in all it went tremendously well, the Wedding was also a highlight & they’ve decided to go back every 10 years for their anniversary. They sent loads of pics & video called me regularly so that was good.
Keep in touch mate,
Dear Derek,
Many thanks for your email and I’m sorry to be so slow in replying. Pleased to hear that the wedding etc went well. At least the recent weather will have enabled you to work on the Scooters! We had a sort of gathering yesterday. My daughter came up from Rochester yesterday. We transferred my late wife’s ashes into a special urn which now has pride of place in the living room. Chris is now easily accessible for consultations etc as necessary .
I’ve started attending a few more a few more coffee and biscuits type of events which give me a few more folks to talk to although the computer skills one is heavy going! I’ll see how it goes over the next few weeks.
Hope that things are moving forward as far as you are concerned.
Look after yourself and I will do my best to keep in touch
All the best
Mike
Hi Mike,
No worries about the reply time, wherever you get around to it is fine.
I’ve had quite a bit going on of late,
Myself & nine colleagues from work went & climbed Snowdonia a couple of weeks back to raise some money for the Hospice that took care of my Anna when she was ill, without doubt the hardest physical challenge I’ve ever faced but we all reached the top which was amazing. They’ve now talked me into climbing Scafell Pike in September which I’m expecting to be a bit more difficult. Then we had what would have been my Wife’s 52nd Birthday so me, me Son & Daughter had a little get together with some food & drinks to spend the evening remembering her. The following day i had a six & a half hour tattoo session having a portrait of my Wife on my inner forearm which hurt a little but turned out amazingly well.
The week after that my Son had his Wedding reception back here which was a great night, just a bit emotional for all concerned that his Mom wasn’t there to see it.
I have been out tinkering with the old Scooters in between, had a fuel starvation issue with one of them which meant a complete carburettor strip & rebuild but all done now & working as it should again, got another through this years MOT without any issues so that was a bonus.
Good to hear your giving some more of the Coffee mornings a go & as regards computer skills stick with it mate it will all make sense at some stage.
I decided to call a halt to my grief counselling sessions as i felt they had taken me as far as they could, i still have good days & bad days but i am able to face each day a little better than i could at first so they must have helped in some way.
Looking forward to hearing back from you at some stage mate, Take care Mike.
All the best mate,
Derek.
I lost my husband 8 months ago, we’d been together since 1973, so 50 years. I still find myself in tears as something sets me off. The other day I sat in the garden on our love seat, and was overtaken by a huge wave of sadness. I bought the seat when he came home from hospital, hoping we’d share it. He only sat there with me once before going back to hospital and passing. I was coping okay with the sadness, no tears, till a feather blew onto the garden in front of me. I blubbed uncontrollably and only our dog was able to hug me and lick away the tears. I’m lucky to have children and grandchildren who give me purpose now. I’ve started to play lawn bowls again, something we enjoyed together.
I play indoor bowls. My husband would always call out ‘did you win’ when I cane home. I miss that. I tried to encourage him to join me, but he always said bowls was for old people. Sadly he’ll never be that now. I wear his St Christopher so i feel he’s with me.
My husband bought me a cross which i wear now cos he bought me it … its conforting isnt it wearing something they gave you : ) dont we miss them and their chat … xxx
I wear my late wife’s wedding ring on the little finger of my left hand. And the kids and I have put her ashes in an urn in the living room. The idea being that she’s always with us.
I have recently had a portrait tattoo of my Wife Anna on my right inner forearm, i had some of her ashes added to the ink so i now carry her with me wherever i am. It gives me a sense of comfort that i didn’t have before & I’m so pleased about that. I also wear a crucifix that she wore every day for over 25 years that means a lot to me.
I’ve just had a ring made using some of the ashes for my Daughter which she absolutely loves, she keeps it on a chain around her neck though as being a Paramedic she’s unable to wear rings whilst she’s working.
xxx