There she stood all alone,
Friends and younger siblings all around
Finding love - their special ones.
Marriage, children, holidays together.
Everyone around a ‘we’ or ‘us’
Year on Year,
Couples everywhere.
While there she stood,
The odd one out.
All alone.
Then out of nowhere, at last
Another soul , with a broken past
Instantly a future.
There she stood, and said ‘I do’
There he stood and said ‘So do I’
A world of ‘us’ and ‘we’
The sweetest of them all.
Sweet sixteen amazing years,
Filled with love and laughter.
Two souls entwined
Forever joined.
There they stood as ‘one’
Yet still a ‘we’ and ‘us’.
And now,
There she stands.
Everyone around still has their special ones,
Futures, dreams and plans.
Everyone around a ‘we’ or ‘us’
Couples everywhere.
There she stands,
The odd one out,
All alone.
Again.
@Cathphil - thank you for sharing these beautiful words. Many of us on here will recognise only too well, what you are saying so well, so clearly. We stand together on here, divided by distance but not by experience. Sending loads of love x
No worries … its true … im gonna start being really careful who i talk to and who i share my life with from now on because i am fed up of people who don’t want to understand how hard it is for us - and also im not gonna put myself into difficult situations either ! You really have to protect your heart dont you ? Look after yourselves … all on here xxxx
Cathphil…I’m so glad if I inspired you…and your poem resonated with me so much. I have had a very bad day. I have been thinking about the first time I met my Sandie …I still have the picture in my head…and I knew at that moment she was the one for me. We were never officially an item for about 2 years later, even though we met often through mutual friends at parties …but I used to lay in my bed as a teenager back then and dream of the day we would be together. How tragically ironic that now as a 68 year old I am doing the same. So your poem hit the spot…thank you
Thank you @UnityMan
I first met my husband when I was 40.
He was 59.
I’d been alone all that time (no partners at all) watching others getting married and having children etc.
Enjoying in their happiness, looking after their children, their pets, their homes while they all enjoyed family holidays etc.
My husband had been married twice before, and not all easy for him.
We were friends for a short while. But, when we got together we knew it was forever.
First proper date Sept 23 2006. Engaged Dec 24 2006.
Married August 25 2007.
Being married to him was the biggest achievement of my life. And the proudest. 16 blissfully happy years together.
I feel so cheated that it was for such a short amount of time compared to everyone around me.
They were all married way before me, and are now still married.
And I’m all alone again.
It just doesn’t seem fair.
Aw … thst doesnt seem fair either ? Life is so unfair ! My husband looked after me cos i have a useless family … and now hes gone and all im left with is a useless family again:( xxx have you read languages of loss , by sashabates - its teally good you know xxx
@Cathphil sending hugs. Life is so unfair sometimes. You can’t help ask “why me”. Our loved ones would want us to live life and be happy but it is so hard without them💔
Thank you @Jan17 thats really kind of you … gonna be a tough day and i already feel so alone … no hug, no happy birthday ! Got few cards and messages but not the same is it … i remember last year … i think he was starting to get poorly then but i found the card he sent me with the bunch of flowers he got me ! Bless him … its so sad for us all isnt it … you know i thought they were gonna save him but in end they couldnt but his body had been through so much it probably couldn’t fight it anymore … i just wish he had gone to drs earlier and maybe outcome be different ! But he was stubborn and proud sometimes and maybe a bit scared ? I will never know why he didnt go to drs earlier will i ? But i do know i miss him so much : ( and my daughter is distraught cos she cant give him a fathers day present Xxx
@Deb5 it really is the hardest thing I’ve every experienced. I’m struggling with the loneliness the most. Nobody to hug & kiss & share your day or your worries with. We also thought my husband was going to pull through . Sad for all the kids today too.
Aw … i know honey its so painful … and i dunno why people cant undertstand that ? Just hang onto that love you had … keep writing to him, remembering the good times ! Hes still there in spirit but i know its not the same xxxxx
no hug, no happy birthday ! Got few cards and messages but not the same is it … i remember last year … i think he was starting to get poorly then 