I’m so terribly sorry to hear about the loss of your dear husband. You must have loved him very much.
Well , the reason I am responding to your post is because it rings true with how I feel. I lost my dear daddy four months ago. At first, I thought was handling it rather well, as you say, sorting out the funeral and any probate etc… Then BOOM out of nowhere comes the grief like a volcano erupting. I’ve spent days in the house howling like an animal with physical pain in my chest. Then it stops and I just get up and get on. But then it comes again- the thought of never seeing him again takes my breath away.
I know we do t know one another but it may be a comfort knowing it’s normal and we just have to go through this. But you’re not alone. Contact me anytime xxx Ellie
Thanks Ellie. It’s a horrible feeling isn’t it? the tsunami of grief and tears is overwhelming sometimes. My daughters feel like you having lost their beloved dad, even though they are adult, they still need their dad, and always will. Let’s hope we both feel better as time goes on. We can always chat on here too when things get on top of us.
Im so sorry for your loss
The same my husband passed 3 months ago and I was supporting everyone else arranging the funeral and loads of family here every day now get occasional visit which is lovely as my grown ups have jobs
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Now I’m missing him do much thinking not a lot to look forward to really but hrd not want me to mope about I’m fine one day then the next tearful for the day
It’s horrible cooking for one etc
We had been married 57 years and feel like I’ve lost my right arm
Exactly like me. Our 57th wedding anniversary would’ve been this June and we were together for two years before marrying, so a lifetime really. He died September 2024, totally unexpected. Tearful one day (especially the long nights), OK the next, but anxious all the time which is not like me at all normally. Sat listening to the recent storms worrying myself silly in case anything happened and I would be on my own trying to sort it out.
Thanks for the reply we would of been married 58 years in March and also knew each other for 2 yrs before
It’s things like after dinner id say shall we have nice cup of yrs and general chit chat now no one to talk too eating alone but still expect him to come in the door
Know just how yr feeling x
I too try put on a mask but as a man i think society expects us to be strong and not ask for help brave face too but i just totally break as soon as the door is closed losing my linda on 8/10/24 has been a pure hell im now looking after her elderly mum who is not well and pretty much room bound i try hide it from her as i know she is coming to terms herself losing her daughter we were together 14 years and due to marry later this year due to having cancel cos of covid my dad passing 2021 and Linda’s mum having fall on stairs and break arm which will never mend fully now I’ve no family as they don’t want to know due to split with there mum 14 years ago and Linda’s only daughter being 300 miles away is not a easy option for her to help care for her nan i feel for you all on here losing your love and special person that was your whole world its the finality of never having the soulmate there anymore and the loneliness is just so overwhelming of that i know I’m so sorry all on this crap road it sucks i hope there is light at the end of your tunnel eventually i know i dont see any to be honest hugs Martin
its me again,its 4 months today since my husband died,in the last 2 weeks i have been "caught out"by being approached by people i ve not seen in a while,dont know that well,ive struggled with emotions each time,hate that im in tears in public places,that i feel "smothered"by attempted hugs/kind words. otherwise i think im doing ok,seeing friends, going out for meals. is this just me seeing “first timers” and not coping well?
I think it’s us progressing through I meet a friend once a week family come when they can
My husband died 3 months ago this week and we used to enjoy going out for a cuppa etc but no fun on my own I feel everyone’s watching me
I’m not sleeping well either
manb I hate the telling people. Passed some people from my village on my walk yesterday that are aquaitances. I have seen them a few times but just said hello. I have not told them about my husband and they must be wondering where he is as we were always together. Each time I see them I tense up wondering if they will ask. Its been nearly 4 months now so hopefully they will just wonder. I still cry whenever anyone talks about him. I just change the subject as quick as I can. Sounds to me that you are coping just fine.
debsie1, thanks,its good to know im not alone,we are on the same “time line”,its so “weird” on this roller coaster,just nor knowing from hour to hour how you are going to react with people.,thanks for "chatting!
abbiesnan,ohh,me too those storms just made the nights worse,all i could think about was "what should i do if something happens"my son and family are 120 miles away,i have reliable friends whos husbands would help,im not too good at asking tho’.
Pickle, do you have an echo? I have just set mine up so it can call my son if I cannot get to my phone. I also no longer keep my key in the door so my son will be able to open it. I am not that old but having nearly fallen down the stairs recently I thought it better safe then sorry.