So it’s been three years since losing my wonderful soulmate 
I still miss him so very much and I will never forget him, but I have this friend who says he has fallen in love with me and wants us to become a couple trouble is I feel as if I’m breaking my promise to my husband I promised him I would always be his wife, but I get so lonely and I’m only 60. Should I be feeling guilty? Can anyone help please?
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What do you think would make you happy? I’m sure that’s what your husband would want. If it was me that was gone I’d want my wife to smile as she once smiled with me.
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What does your gut tell you. Take it slow and see how you feel. If it’s not right you will know. Make sure you’re moving forward for the right reasons. Being lonely isn’t a reason to be with someone. If you feel the same as him then go for it.
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Thank you 
, I have know this man for over 45 years. We grew up together then went our own ways in life, but we always stayed friends, and yes I do have feelings for him, but I don’t want to hurt my husband’s feelings 
I know he has passed over, but I am sure he is still with me every day
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I understand that guilt but only you can decide if it’s the right thing for you just now. Sorry, not being that helpful lol but I’m sure you know what I mean. Good luck.
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@Nichola1 that is a hard one as it seems that you was with your husband for a long time and he was your soulmate. It is natural that you are going to feel guilty and thinking that you will be betraying your husband. Did you ever get the chance to speak to your husband about if one of you died. I didn’t as my husband died suddenly and unexpectedly. We never had that conversation. Do you feel that you could love again? Could you be companions and just good friends if you feel you are not ready. Only you will know. Take care and hope everything works out for you what ever your path takes you Xx
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Thank you so very much 
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