Hi Unity man
I forgot to put your name on my post I just wrote it just now it
was a reply for you I hope you manage to read it
Ann11
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That is explained beautifully for me , I can learn to live with I won’t heal My husband died because of his heart , and mine has a hole in it now , it may get smaller over time but I will always have a hole there
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I know how you feel, I’m holding down a job, looking after myself and my dog, eating, even meeting up with friends now and again but I still have a massive void inside which hurts like hell.
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Hello Jane 15
I am pleased my post managed to give you a little bit of comfort 
It is a horrible experience we are going through & only people who are in the same situation can know properly how we feel
My Bill had his Aorta valve replaced at age 67 & no health problems at all we were at our Halloween social night & we were dancing & 1/2 hr he was gone in seconds such a tragic time he was 77
However apparently the aorta can become loose which is extremely rare but my Bill was one of the ones it happened to
Take care Jane & keep looking for nice support on here it seems to somehow help I go off for a while & then come back on
Ann111
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Hi Unityman
I saw your post this morning & I put one on for you but forgot to reply to your name
Please scroll down to find it from Ann111
I hope it may give you a little comfort as I totally agree with you it is the most saddest feeling we could never imagine we would have to endure time will never heal this grief it is always going to be there we live with it because we have no choice but I believe our special love & memories will keep us who we are forever
Take care
Ann111[quote=“UnityMan, post:1, topic:90431, full:true”]
Time heals…that’s what everyone who hasn’t been here says. Well…it does. I have learned how to negotiate life. I can cook (always did anyway)…I can now work the washing machine…I keep the house as clean as I can…her garden still survives, but that’s more by chance than my efforts. But what time doesn’t do …is make my longing and heart ache better…in fact, time makes it worse. So…if anybody ever says that ’ time heals’ …well, I leave your response to you…I used to love life and live…I now I exist…time drags…it doesn’t heal…
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I remember Nick having a scan on that ? It was fine just the rest of his heart was knackard! I just draw comfort in it was quick and he knew nothing he passed out before the heart attack , then went in icu for two days that was the worse for me ! But I know he didn’t know anything x
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I have read your responses Ann111…thank you for taking the time…
Yep totally agree, its will always be broken. Could not of put it any better myself, lost my hubby end of march, we lost our only son 2 years ago, so when you say its shit yes it is and times not helping ar all.
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Ahh thank you & hope you manage to have an ok sort of day the best you possibly can take care 
Ann111
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