I have been praying, crying, reading, praying some more, moaning,aching, grieving endlessly and looking at all sorts of ways of navigating this terrible loss. And today I opened a bottle of wine and let my hair down. We shouldn’t use alcohol to numb the pain and should face it full force but today I said time to let it all go . Did it for myself. Nobody understands. Nobody can feel this unless it is another person in this forum facing a loss that has transformed them forever…Good thing is I didn’t cry or break down.
Don’t feel guilty about drinking half a bottle of wine we’ve all been there as long as it doesn’t become a habit now and again theres no harm ive done it myself and its got me through the moment but i found after the wine wears off you feel worse than ever so pick up a book if you can or watch rubbish tv anything to get through the bad feeling which hits us all I’m 4months nearly and its getting slightly easier for me not like the early days which was horrendous
Good for you girl. If someone passes judgment they don’t understand. You have to have been through it to see where it comes from. You do whatever works for you. xx
i just went to take my dogs out and sitting in my close was a frog which i am so scared of so phoned my sister and she came and got the frog outside for me and i thought if davy was still here he would have got it for me he passedaway 11 weeks ago from cancer but the last couple of days feels like he just died life sucks thats for sure
You’re incredibly strong-minded to be able to just drink half! Unfortunately, for the first 4 weeks, I was drinking 2 bottles of wine a night!!! I have spoken to my GP and working hard to reduce my alcohol intake as I know it’s unhealthy but also not helpful! Only had 1 bottle last night……will try not to buy any today
Its so easy to have a drink at the time it makes you forget a little bit but then when it wears off you feel worse than ever i got drunk on Sunday was out with my girls but i am also on antidepressant when i got home was sobbing uncontrollably was nasty to my girls and then the next day couldn’t stop crying and didn’t go to work my husband died suddenly 4months ago from a sudden heart attack he was 63 so now when i go out I’m trying to go easy or have non alcoholic if the wine is making you sleep youd be best taking sleeping tablets off the doctor what your doing is trying to cope and you will still have a drink socially but you no yourself thats too much your making the first step by cutting down and letting people no who understand how bad we all feel take care and keep posting
Thanks debrat, although I have spoken to my GP about sleeping tablets, but was also very honest about how much I have been drinking! She is not happy to prescribe me any at present which I really respect her for. She is ringing me on a weekly basis and I am working hard to reduce the amount I am drinking. I’ve gone from two bottles of wine a night to one bottle each of the last 3 nights. Slowly getting there
I know that I am drinking too much, it will be 5 months on the 5th September, and I try so hard not to drink a whole bottle. Leave it as late as I can, or promise myself that I will stop after 2 glasses. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t, it all depends on whether or not I start to cry when I turn the lights off and try to sleep. I am sure it will get better. I am going back to work properly in September, so I hope that will tire me out more and give me an incentive to have a clear head in the morning.
