Tonight

Losing a partner
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Ha! Yes! I should try to emulate my two cats, they just carry on sleeping through all the bangs with hardly a twitch of a whisker!

Simon x

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Feeling the same as well. Wanted to stay at home with my puppy. I just can’t put on the happy face for everyone else, not tonight it’s too hard. Sending love and light to everyone tonight.

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Hi Simon,

I am dreading the singing, shouting and usual drunken behaviour come midnight. Hence another reason for the headphones. I know it is an avoidance tactic but needs must. I am just about holding things together and don’t need things being made harder. Your cats sound very calm. I need to take a leaf out of their book.

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Feel exactly the same. I can just about cope on my own but not around other people. Sending love. X

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Is anyone else just sitting and reminiscing about past NYEs and years, with tears running down their face?

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Hi everyone I am lucky tonight as I have my daughter and son in law and my 2 small grandsons staying overnight which is helping to stop me feeling so lonely but I know tomorrow when they go the tears will come x love to you all hope you are able to get some sleep

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@Paddy53 yes I am. You’re not alone x

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Hi Paddy,
Been doing that earlier today but managed to calm down a little bit tonight. Thing is it can come back and hit me with a vengeance which is partly why I am better on my own. I don’t want to bring everybody else down. Take care of yourself and sending hugs. X

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Sending love to everyone struggling tonight. xx

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Hi @Billie7,

Yes! I know exactly what you mean. I think the headphones are an excellent idea. As you say, it’s awful enough as it is without adding to the burden. I tend to crank the TV up or put on a CD to listen to while being mindful of the neighbours. To be honest, since Christine died I cannot get to sleep without there being some background noise. I find a night light is a comfort as well.

As I write this, my cats are both curled up between my legs sleeping peacefully. They are exceedingly comfy. I most certainly am not!

I too have been feeling very teary. It’s coming in waves. I’m sure you know what I mean. My thoughts are whirling around, the past, the future, Christine, what the hell do I do or try to do next?

Have the TV on and trying to read a book on poetry to distract myself.

I hope you are managing to find some spaces of calm this evening.

Simon x

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I empathise and feel the same as you all. But on top of that I dread tomorrow. Not only new years day, but my wedding anniversary.

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Strength and best wishes to you @Wifey1 for tomorrow. That’s tough.

Tomorrow is my birthday. I won’t be getting a birthday card from my gorgeous Christine.

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You have both got even more of a difficult day tomorrow than I realised. I am thinking of you and hope you are ok. Stay strong and keep going. Love to you both. Xxx

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Thank you. x

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Aw @Pudding bad day ! Take care honey xxx

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To @Wifey1 and @JerryH
Thinking of you both today and sending love and best wishes xx

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Thanks @Mist2, that’s really sweet of you. x

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Thank you everyone for your kind wishes.

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Hi Simon
Just wanted to wish you Happy Birthday. I hope you are ok . Sending hugs. X

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@JerryH , sending you best wishes today , hope you get through it the best you can . Xtake carex