It’s always hard when anniversarys arrive. They are days which we have treasured memories of. Think of the happy times you had together. Also troubled times and how you fought together to overcome them as those times served to make your relationship stronger. I went to see my husband today as it would have been his birthday. I sang happy birthday. I think it’s a good job he can no longer hear. Maybe you should do something to remind you of him.
Thank you Camille, I’m putting together a memory scrapbook which I’m hoping will be finished for the 23rd, our anniversary and I think I’ll stay home with my own thoughts and memories. Last year we stayed at home and had a romantic meal, games night and champagne, although I’d been at work during the day. It was so nice but I’m not at work at the moment and it’s going to be a long day.
His funeral was last Thursday which was so hard and I’d written him an early anniversary card that went in the coffin with him.
I had a memory box which people at the funeral wrote their thoughts and memories of andy. I look at that when i feel the need to. Most are very funny and show how well loved he was. I do think that you need some time to yourself. It’s lovely that people care, but it’s ok to say that you just need time for yourself.
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I am sorry for your loss and tell me about the trauma following with the loss of loved ones. I hope you find support and comfort from this group. I lost my husband suddenly to heart failure ten months 8 days but still a mess. It is still very early days and everything may still be confusing and overwhelming. I hope you find hope and encouragement to stay strong.
We’ve all got our stories about losing our loved ones but whether it’s been years or months since they went the pain is just the same.
Sometimes I want to talk about Carl all the time but others it hurts too much.
It’s a living nightmare, when I wake up in the morning and remember, I just want to go back to sleep again x