Hi,
I lost my partner just over 2 months ago to a tragic car accident where he was in critical care for just over a day and then passed away. I have been through alot of trauma being with him in hospital, seeing him in that way and holding his hand as he took his last breaths, i am so lost and so heartbroken we spent everyday together, we lived together for last 5 years my whole world has been turned upside down, Ive had to move back home with my mum and everything just happened so fast, im so young and I know I have a long life ahead of me without him, I just dont see how I move forward, if anyone has had similar situation or any advice I would really appreciate it.
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Hi there,
First of all I’m sending the warmest hugs to you. I’m so sorry. I lost my person coming up to nearly a year ago and it hasn’t got any easier - even though everybody said that it would. I guess it’s the easiest thing to say. I also lost him to a tragic accident, it’s completely took it out of me. He was only 24, my heart has completely been broken. I know you wished to spend the rest of your days with your person, as did I. It still feels like only yesterday - I just can’t believe how fast its’s gone. This site is a safe place, I’m glad I found it when I did because I really needed the support. It’s hard to see ahead, I’m trying to do things I enjoy/we would enjoy doing together so that I can feel him near. I wish I could give you more advice but it’s been the hardest year of my life and I’m still trying to figure everything all out. My biggest fear in life was losing the person I was with to an accident. I can’t believe everything I was afraid of happening, happened. Sorry, I’m rambling now. I know how you feel and just wish I could heal us both. We are both missing our person so dearly however you do somehow find the stregth to get through each and every day. No clue where it comes from, possibly them. It’s important that you allow yourself the time to grieve and whoever reckons you’re grieving ‘too much’ ignore them !!! You really find out your true friends throughout times like this. Once again I’m so sorry for your loss, none of us asked to be in this boat - but you are not alone sweet 
apologies for the long paragraph, make sure you take care of yourself and allow yourself to feel the way you feel. It’s a must. Loads of love, biggest hugs xx
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Thank you so much for your reply, it was also my biggest fear to loose him and I know everyone says this about there person but he is genuinely the most genuine, kind hearted person and I will never understand how bad things, horrible things happen to good people, no one will ever see me like he did thats hard to think about too. Im so sorry to hear about your loss too and your right you really do see who true friends are its like after the funeral and everything is done people tend to back away and its these times that are the hardest is after all that settles down, but I guess it proves how strong we are and more than we think. He definetly gives me strength I am a spiritual perosn and I do believe in the afterlife but sometimes its just hard to keep the positivity in it all. Im glad I found this website finding people that have been through similar really helps, thank you xxx
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Sending you strength at this sad time 
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Thank you xx
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So sorry for getting back to you so late xx
I know exactly what you mean.
I’m sure everything you mentioned about him is true
And yes, no one ever saw me like he did either. He was the only person who made me feel - we were us, it was us. I can’t believe I’ve lost it. You and I are both so young, he was my person and you just don’t want to even think of meeting other people along the line. I’ve already had people say to me things like ‘you found your one once, you can do it again’ like no, you might as well just say that there’s plenty more fish in the sea. I don’t even want to think about the long future ahead without him, the person I wanted to spend the rest of my days with. No one understands until it happens to themselves. This isn’t going to go away, it’s so utterly heartbreaking. I want to break down every 5 minutes.
I blow him kisses to the sky every day, especially before bed. However I do find it challenging to look at his photos. it’s been the worse year ever aha - we’re just expected to get on with it.
Big hugs darl xxx
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