My mum died. I was told she had a couple of weeks left but she died within 48 hours. It was traumatic, she didn’t die peacefully. Her mind was fully aware and she knew she was dying in that moment because she said it’s not ok I’m dying and told me she couldn’t breathe. she spoke to me until she no longer could and died minutes later. It was so painful to see her body shutting down with her being fully aware. She must have been terrified and I’m struggling knowing that she had a traumatic passing. I’m not sure if I’ll ever unsee it, I keep having flashbacks. Has anyone else been in this situation?
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I have, my mum dieing before my eyes was so unexpected and I fully understand how you feel about not being able to unsee it. I’ll live with it every day and will always question could I have done more.
I can only say it gets easier, nothing takes the pain or thoughts away but you learn to live with it, not saying that’s for you, everyone says time is a healer, I hated hearing that at first but it don’t heal, you just learn to live with it and somehow carry on. Glad you have asked or reached out on this app, it’s been a real life line for me.
You are not alone and always ask for help. Happy to listen or help anytime xx
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My husband had a heart attack at me feet 15 months ago , that imagine would be in my head as I tried to sleep then first thing when I woke , in the early days I was given sleeping tablets , they helped a bit , then slowly I would say get one day where I wouldn’t have the picture in my head , then maybe two days and so on , now it’s just now and again , but I guess the image will always be there , I try to swap it with a image of him happy x
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Swapping image is a great thing for the mind, will try to do x
@Miffy1
Sometimes you really have to fight with the nice image against the nasty image and I say in my head I will NOT have that nice image spoilt and it kind of works !
P.s I love your Sue Ryder name MIFFY that was my childhood cats name after I loved the miffy rabbit books x
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Thank you 
Thank you, been off here for a bit as been struggling with images of her dying and nothing I could do as her wishes were DNR it haunts me not being able to save the person I loved the most and having to watch her die before me. My mind and emotions can’t cope sometimes