I like to think Im starting to cope.
But there are so many triggers.
I’ve just walked into the doctors waiting room and playing on the radio. “How am I Supposed to Live Without You” I struggled but I managed to keep it together.
When do we learn to cope with triggers?
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Good morning @Liro
I think you did just cope 
imagine if you had heard that earlier along in your journey, would you have been able to hold it together?
Xx
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Vivid memory came to mind
Of your face so kind
When you were in a happy mood
Fish & chips your fav food
Silent now just the birds
Twittering away as if to say
You lived you died and left behind
Your footprint forever on my mind
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Thankyou, yes I suppose I did. I hadn’t thought of it that way.
Mind you I did cry when I saw the doctor.
I only went about my knee!!
Sending big hugs
Liz x x
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Sometimes it’s just saying things out loud. I was on the phone to the doctor yesterday and started crying it’s just so unlike me!
How your knees ok
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Thankyou.
They’re not sure if its arthritis or ligaments. Or good old old age 
We’re starting with xrays and physio
X x
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Not sure which is better? Least it’ll be a couple of days out for you 
Joking aside hopefully it’ll be something that can be treated easily xx
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Well there is that. A nice day out
Thanks for caring x
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I feel you my love…
I suddenly burst into tears upon hearing “You’re just too good to be true” in Tescos. I was paying, and I had a flashback of me and my family singing this to my Mum at her bedside the day before she died.
It was tough to hold it in… I wanted to scream on the floor there and then 
But just breathe. Let the tears flow if they need to… it won’t last forever. Dont be scared to let go. Its ok
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Yes it is ok.
But people, strangers, don’t know what to do if you start crying.
So we struggle, and we breathe, and somehow we get through it.
Until we get home …
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I’ve just heard a song I’ve not heard before although it was a big hit in 2018 apparently.
I don’t listen to much chart music, I’m a country fan
It’s called ‘Lost Without You’ by Freya Ridings
Its beautiful and so sad and it made me cry.
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So many songs unheard or that were unrelatable prior to grief… can become heart wrenchingly sad and triggering…
The radio is an unpredictable listening experience these days!!!
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I was looking at things I kept over fifty years ago. I found a love letter from my late husband and suddenly penny dropped. At the time I forgot what exactly he said afterwards but it was so poignant why he felt then. Obviously it changed over the years. Ups and downs and mistakes and misunderstandings and such a shame really. It triggers me to think about it.
Silver lining came out of it. I can’t stay on it as too upsetting. Just been to a group of other people who are in same boat as me. I felt really awkward today because my front tooth fell out and it make too self conscious to join in.
I don’t know if I should have not gone because of it but would be worse sitting at home.
I feel I must try.
It has just started to rain so no need to water garden.
Yes you’re right, the radio is responsible for many a tear!
Perhaps they should come with a warning.
The Tv can be as bad
X x