Hi everyone,
I have invented a new thing I’d like to share, it’s called “movie roulette”, I buy any 3 DVDs from a charity shop or second hand store, so they only cost £1 or 2, my only rule is no war movies, (they give me nightmares,) if I start watching the movie & don’t like it, I don’t have to watch all the way to the end, but I have found some good movies this way, & some rubbish ones. The point is to try new things, things I wouldn’t normally of tried, reach outside my comfort zone. For me, I feel I’m on a journey of self discovery, growing, changing & developing as a person. I guess for me, it’s that my family always restricted me growing up, they criticised, & controlled, & made everything about them, I wasn’t allowed to be myself, the more I’ve thought about it, I see the harm this has caused me, to the point I feel damaged, & don’t know who I am as a person, but slowly, I’m learning new things about me, about who I am now.
That’s a great idea and it’s so positive that you are exploring and curious about the person you can be going forward.
I think we all need to try new things as we work through our grief. I find at the moment that my old life and hobbies just are too hard to want to return to them. I hope to build a different new life for myself - step by step, even if it takes years.
Hopefully you are well on your way to startignthat journey.
Keep going - you’re doing great 
Yes I tried to do the ceroc dance with a guy who could already do it on a class offered on a break I went on.
I tried archery. I was no good at it but tried it.
Hi @roni52,
Thank you for your kind words. I know it can be hard sticking to old hobbies & routines, some how, we feel lethargic & don’t have the enthusiasm anymore, & sometimes trying to stick to the old routine reminds us of the person who has gone, 
but maybe start with something small, like walking a different route to work, in the interest of mindfulness notice the difference sights, sounds & smells, maybe have lunch at a different café, take a walk each day, it doesn’t have to be far, even if it’s just to the corner shop to get milk or a paper 
. When you’re feeling a bit more adventurous, maybe do a mini-course in something, maybe something like scratching, creative writing, crochet, jewellery making, it’s not so much about the thing itself, it’s about the journey, & who knows what you might find, what you’ll learn, or who you might meet along the way. Sending hugs of support.
& @Enorac,
Keep trying new things, the world is your oyster 
the possibilities are endless.
Yes tried different plants.
Hi @Enorac
You mentioned you tried archery, it’s not about whether or not your good at it, it’s about did you enjoy it. 
Update on movie roulette, some of the amazing movies I’ve found are “The Lake house,” “No reservations,” “The Net,” “Paul Blart mall cop,” “The wedding planner,” “How to lose a guy in 10 days,” “Sahara,” “playing for keeps,” “The notebook”, I will admit has a sad but romantic ending, & “The underdog,” (Disney movie). On the flip side of this, I recently saw Dorian Gray, 
I found it horrific, not my kind of movie. But I’m enjoying the variety in movie roulette, & experiencing new things, & what I can learn from them.