Jim, everything you said is spot on! I lost my daughter, 27, unexpectedly just 12 weeks before her wedding day. I live my life in her memory - she was such a force of nature. Some days I cannot look at her photo as it is so painful, but other days I can talk for hours about her. I cannot say the “d” word, and never will, she was taken from us or passed away. It is important to keep talking about our children and the memories we have. I’m sending many hugs to all the grieving parents out there xxx
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Cal500
So sorry to hear such sad news. I understand ever word your saying.
I cant say the d word it has to be passed away. I suppose it doesn’t seem final and that we will meet again.
Sending hugs to everyone going through the same hurt and disbelief that your loveone went fare to early, never expected to loose my son at 44 to go before his mum and dad .
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Jim,
You have summed up the way things are so well. I lost my daughter to ovarian cancer last October after such a strong fight on her part against such a cruel disease.
Take care, and thank you.
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Jim 10 weeks ago my beautiful daughter who was the love of my life and drive for all I did and my purpose in this world sadly took her own life. I understand there are no words that can stop my pain and the rollercoaster I’m living and how scared I am about what my life will mean without her. However every now and then I read a post and do feel comfort and I think its that I’m hearing from someone who writes in a way that allows me not to feel so alone. And your post di that for me. Just a dim spark of hope that maybe I won’t always feel as I do today. So thank you and I am so sorry that I am replying to someone because they have suffered in the am way. It seems so cruel. My warm wishes, Paul
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Thank you, I needed to read that. My beautiful 17 yr old daughter passed away 10 weeks ago and the world is a very bleak place for me at the minute. People are trying so hard but I feel unreachable, I just want her back
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Dear Paulģ
My heart goes out to you. How your heart is broken.
My son aged 43 passed away 18monthd ago. He died so quickly . He had Sepsis he was my life,
I thought about taken my life too. He has two beautiful children and we have two my children i just thought i had to be here for them. My heart hurts .
But i will say it doesn’t get easier, i see him in his room it just breaks my heart, i cry every day and now it has hit me hes not coming home any more. But we know hes at home, just after two weeks of him passing the alarm went of, but we didnt set it we are both retired . Then the same time a couple of days after it happened.
I slept in his room one night and i felt someone sat on the bed and felt him next to me just for a second.
I froze as thought some had broken in to the house but realised it must have been our son.
What keeps me going is his girls and that i know i will see him again.
I have read many books about life after death and i will say hes in a beautiful place with his other family and friends. They have no pain, just peace and love.
Beautiful flowers in the fields and they never die again . Im sure you daughter is happy and at peace now… Its you thats hurting my god how it hurts…with me 18 months on and its never gets any better… Be as strong as you can, i find keeping active helps… Watch the feathers and robins they are from your daughter to let you know shes ok… Keep strong which i kmow is so very hard… But this is how i am feeling and hope peace will be with you… S x
Dear S. I always start by saying I am so sorry for your loss but what I really mean is that I am so sorry for the devastation, pain and longing you are left with and how your life has changed forever. Losing a child at any age is losing a part of who we are and our meaning and in my case I was mum and dad and Sam was my only daughter… I am genuinely grateful that you have your experiences and beliefs. The best that I have is that my beautiful Sam is no longer suffering and can never suffer again. Her story is a little long to explain but the short version is that she was a happy successful young lady, got involved in the wrong relationship, couldn’t see this and after putting up with so much over 22 months it was ended at a time when she had no resources after a 15 hour shift ( was a paramedic), tired, and had no resources and in a moment of so much pain acted. We understand he didn’t kill her but his lack of care over 22 months touched something in her and it just wasn’t expected. She really is the love of my life and had so many boxes ticked in life having worked so hard on herself. Its hard to accept and very disturbing how it came about. I could go on forever about her as I love her and was so proud of her and beyond heartbroken and have to now learn to live without her. Thank you for your words. Paul
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I’m so very sorry for your devastating loss 
