Afternoon, thank you for your kind and helpful response, so sorry your life has been turned upside down especially in similar circumstances to my own, people who haven’t experienced what everyone here has gone through have no idea if concept of how we feel, how we cope or not cope, one of my husband’s cousins phoned 2 possibly 3 weeks ago, wanted to know if I had any of his family’s photos she wanted them as they’re not photos of my family, then asked if i was over it all now. Just before I hung upon her I reminded her that the photos were part of my children’s family and as such they have them now, I just hung up and not heard another word since. It’s as though overnight I’ve become an untouchable, really seeing a very different and unsavoury side to some people lately. I truly hope you begin to look back on your life together and take comfort from all the beautiful moments you shared together, I’m finding great comfort in remembering past times. Sometimes I’ll get a little reminder totally out of the blue and that triggers memories long forgotten. Blessings and take care ☆
I was guided to a book Love Never Dies by Dr Jamie Turndorff, in it she refers to writing in a journal to her late husband as though they were sitting having the conversation together, also says she speaks out loud as she writes as though she’s actually talking to him, I have bought a beautiful journal that I feel is appropriate where I can write innermost thoughts and feelings about my husband, I began it last night and found it very therapeutic, I am not saying this will help everyone, and Each of you would most probably write many different things, I’ve no set plan except to write just like the conversations we used to have, write down any memories that are triggered by an event or incidence during that day, and anything else that comes to mind as my pen touches the paper, my only self imposed rule is that negativity doesn’t have a place. I’m feeling my most optimistic today. I shall update my progress. If this helps to cope and deal with my loss, I feel I’m keeping him even closer by my side, sadly not in the physical sense but most certainly in the spiritual sense.
Some of my so called friends may pass comment that I’m losing the plot, who cares what they think. I truly believe I have been guided to find the book Love Never Dies and buy the beautiful journal by husband in answer to my requests that he helps and shows me the way. He has always remained close by since his passing, I.know that, it’s the coming to terms with not having him at my side in his physical earth body. I’m not professing this to be a fix by any description but feel it’s a way it will help me in trying to come to terms with his loss ☆
I was guided to a book Love Never Dies by Dr Jamie Turndorff, in it she refers to writing in a journal to her late husband as though they were sitting having the conversation together, also says she speaks out loud as she writes as though she’s actually talking to him, I have bought a beautiful journal that I feel is appropriate where I can write innermost thoughts and feelings about my husband, I began it last night and found it very therapeutic, I am not saying this will help everyone, and Each of you would most probably write many different things, I’ve no set plan except to write just like the conversations we used to have, write down any memories that are triggered by an event or incidence during that day, and anything else that comes to mind as my pen touches the paper, my only self imposed rule is that negativity doesn’t have a place. I’m feeling my most optimistic today. I shall update my progress. If this helps to cope and deal with my loss, I feel I’m keeping him even closer by my side, sadly not in the physical sense but most certainly in the spiritual sense.
Some of my so called friends may pass comment that I’m losing the plot, who cares what they think. I truly believe I have been guided to find the book Love Never Dies and buy the beautiful journal by husband in answer to my requests that he helps and shows me the way. He has always remained close by since his passing, I.know that, it’s the coming to terms with not having him at my side in his physical earth body. I’m not professing this to be a fix by any description but feel it’s a way it will help me in trying to come to terms with his passing ☆