I lost my mum 6 months ago and thought I was dealing with it fine, but I don’t think I’m doing as well as I thought I was.
I’m binging chocolate, unable to sleep well and just have no energy to make plans. Stupidly it took me a while to connect the dots with parenting, work and a house renovation getting in the way.
I’m just hoping that starting to talk about it helps. My mum was ill for 18 months before she died first with cancer and having her voice box removed, to then having a stroke and the cancer then coming back. It was a hard time, and I thought I’d dealt with a lot of feelings then, but I think I’ve barely scratched the surface.
Has anyone got any techniques that have helped them tap into their grief? I write in a journal to mum when I remember, but it’s so hard to sum up everything that goes with losing the person I talked to every other day. She was my biggest supporter and just brilliant, it’s such a big hole in my life and I’m just so sad my little girl doesn’t get to experience my mum’s love for longer.
I’m so sorry for your loss! I lost my mum around 8 months ago, she was in hospital for a couple of months but was still unexpected.
I too have a little one, I understand the feeling of your mum missing out on seeing her grandchild grow up and go through so many amazing changes.
I find the best thing to do, is just to keep talking about her and sharing any photos or videos of her with them. Share the happy memories, the funny memories.
I know everyone is different, but I’ve found that talking out loud, as if my mum can hear me, helps a lot at times. Having those conversations still, and just getting a sense of how she would respond.
It’s a long road, but time is the only way to find peace. I always remember though, a quote I read out at her funeral, which I think is so true. “For as long as we remember her, she will never truly be gone”
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i promised my late wife i would not let our granddaughters forget her although they are still young i still talk to them about her
keeping her memory alive has become my purpose in life
grandma is the most important thing in children’s life we need to honour that memory and keep the memory of our loved ones alive x
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So sorry for your loss @CWilson
There are loads of videos that deal with grief on YouTube. I find David Kessler and Sarah Bell videos are very helpful.
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