Hi,
I turned 20 this Tuesday and really struggled with an outlet for my sadness. It’s hard to accept that I am growing into a new person that my mum wouldn’t know. I am changing and evolving into a woman without a female role model. How am i supposed to know what’s the right way to move forward with my life. Finding the balance between grief and restoration is really hard.
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That’s really tough. I can’t imagine how you feel 
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My dad didn’t have siblings, but since losing him I’ve created a new relationship with his closest cousin. Are you close to any of your parents’ family?
Hello apadbury, so sorry to read your sad post, and I will try to write some words of comfort. Tuesday’s birthday must have been specially heartbreaking for you.
I can empathise with you as my mother died on my 21st birthday and Dad died when I was 26. There are just some times when we have to lean on others a little. Here you will find total strangers who will sympathise and send you love, because we know only too well, that grief takes a hold of you and it’s difficult sometimes to see a life beyond the all-consuming sadness. If I’m the first, I know others will be along to support you.
First you have to allow yourself to grieve. Cry when you feel like crying. Please stop worrying about how you are going to ‘change and evolve’, it will just happen, and know that it’s ok to feel confused and sad, it’s normal.
Do you have siblings who are going through this difficult time with you? I hope you have relatives and friends who will help you too.
Be assured that we are here, sometimes late at night when you when sleep is evading you, you will read the messages and realise that you are not truly alone.
Best wishes for you moving forward. tiny steps, one day at a time.
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poor sweetheart. I am so sorry. have you considered a counselor someone who knows how to address grief. or a group for young adults. I was an only child and mother and father are so important. I miss mine very much. I wish you the best. do what you can to help yourself people on here are very kind. 