Before Nigel passed away he was constantly in and out of hospital.
Some days he was so depressed, understandably!
We decided that there had to be a little bit of light in every day, no matter how small. We set an alarm for 7:00pm each day and called it Two Positive Things.
That alarm still rings every day, and every day I try to find those two positive things. Some days I haven’t been able to find any, some days getting out of bed has been one of them, feeding the birds, going for a walk, a day of sunshine instead if rain…
It’s not easy, and it’s not something I want to do without him but if Nigel could do that in his darkest days and hours, then so can I.
For today, I know my two things will be glorious sunshine and a lawn full of sparrows.
Check in later and share yours, no matter how small…
I’m glad you’ve got that to do in memory of your husband.
I do try to find and do something positive but its hard isn’t it. Especially days like today today when the rain is pouring down incessantly and everthing is grey and gloomy.
I have cleaned my kitchen sink so I suppose I could count that as a positive. And now I’ve got to tackle the mess that is my front bedroom. It looks like a bomb site at the moment so any headway there will be positive.
Enjoy your weather and your garden
@Liro I currently have more ‘floor-drobe’ than bedroom…but I’ve put that out of my mind for today.
Take any small achievement and reflect on how far you’ve come 
Sending you some rare, Derbyshire sunshine 
That is a lovely idea. I have a Gratitude Jar that I started on 1st January this year. I pop a little note in with the date if there has been something I have been grateful for, then the idea is to read them at New Year. It doesn’t have to be daily or weekly but I do have a few in there.
Thats a lovely idea, in the New Year you can see how far you’ve come. I might start that myself, thankyou for sharing
Dear @S_Diva
That is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing something so very personal as an idea to help us all.
You can add to your positive list inspiring us all on this site. You certainly have me.
My positives today
- Cut and dyed my hair - by myself.
(It’s pink! I first dyed it last year when I did the race for life) And have kept it pink , but it needs topping up every so often!
And I bravely cut about 3 inches of the bottom… All those split ends have gone! - I ordered a book of logical thinking puzzles from Amazon. I used to love doing that type of logical problem when I was a child. Couldn’t find one in the shops, so found one on Amazon. It arrived today. I’ve completed two of the puzzles.
Love and hugs 
Ps. Doing the Race for Life again this year.
I do it with my two little dogs.
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@Cathphil … love this, thank you. I’d love to be brave enough to colour my hair
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I’ve also challenged myself to some fundraising for a cholangiocarcinoma charity for next year -the Yorkshire 3 Peaks Challenge…need to get my act together and start training in earnest!
Dear @S_Diva
Doing the 3 peaks challenge is much braver than colouring your hair!
Well done to you.
Really proud of you
You are all so brave and so strong. As much as I’d like to try these challenges I’m afraid my body wouldnt oblige, it’s so much older than my brain 
My positive today was to start typing up my letters to Roger, that I’ve been writing in the notepad on my phone. I’m terrified of losing them and have decided to type them up and print them out so I can keep them in a folder, safe forever. It’s going to take a while, I’m no typist but it’ll be worth it, and heh I’ve got plenty of time
Hugs to everyone x
@Liro
What a beautiful thing to do… I think it’s really important for us to keep those conversations alive… I write to Nigel, tell him about my day, what’s made me sad, what’s lifted me up, my plans…
Keep writing 🩷
I’m glad I’m not the only one thats writing to their loved one. Although I do get comfort from it did wonder if it was normal.
I suppose its like a diary, not something I’ve ever done before, but now I will never stoplove and hugs
My two things are being able to go for a walk and reading back some of the fun messages between the hubby and I in the early days of his illness, when he was still able to type.
@galyiebum … I’ve kept all Nigel’s messages… I don’t think I’ve read them back yet…but I’m sure I will.
Hope you had some sunshine for your walk 🩷