Unable to grieve

My Millie died in September 2006 aged 8 weeks. I’ve never allowed myself to grieve. I’m now at the point where I have to as my life is a mess but I don’t know how to


Dear Emilyh,

It is never too late to look for support and it is good you have posted on this site. Losing a child must be one of the hardest events that can ever happen to someone. I cannot speak from personal experience, but I have read and heard stories from those who have have suffered a loss like yours. My own mum lost my baby brother when I was only a toddler, in a time where there was very little support given, and it caused her a lot of sadness.

There are organisations that offer specific help to those who have lost a child, and on one of theier sites I found an article that may be paticularly helpful for you. This is the link to it: When your baby or child died many years ago | Child Bereavement UK

When you read this article, you will see that you are not alone. There is no time limit to grieve. I hope you find the support you are looking for, and that there will also be others on this site who will reach out to you. Please feel free to post as often as you want. Sending you my love and a big virtual hug. xx Jo


May I make a suggestion. Start a journal - its never too late - just buy an A4 notebook - start by writing down your feelings all the things you’re keeping inside - let them out - let yourself go - it could be so cathartic and then when you’re ready to share - you might find it easier to start by sharing that as a first step.
Lots of love and hugs.
P.s. I think you have taken an important step here by reaching out. Xx