Unbearable grief

Well here I am , sitting with my computer, reading the kind words but the tears are still falling . It is now more than 24 hours, I visited my GP and although he was sympathetic there was nothing he could do except prescribe some sleeping tablets . The kind , caring , wonderful man I loved is no longer with me . I wish I could turn the clock back, I just don’t know what to do, I’m falling apart and I can’t see any future

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I’m sorry you’re going through this. I lost my partner suddenly in early April. You’re in shock and the pain is unbearable. I felt sick and my heart felt like it had been stamped on. I went from feeling numb to sobbing my heart out. Arranging the funeral etc kept me occupied initially. I’ve found this site helpful and also grief podcasts and talking books. All have really helped. Bereavement counselling is helping also. It’s still raw for me but the grief waves are further apart now than the first few weeks. Be kind to yourself, try to eat healthy and get some sleep. Reach out here, take care.

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Thank you , your words describe exactly how I am feeling , really sick, not wanting to eat despite my daughter trying her best to get me to have something… Like you say the pain is unbearable, I took sleeping tablets , I just wanted to get to sleep to stop feeling the pain.

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Hi both im sorry for your losses i lost my partner of 16yrs on the 18th of april the day before my 60th birthday he fought cancer for 15mths before it took him away . I feel just like you Elizabeth i cry most the time and like you said marnie the funerals over and you just feel numb i still dont feel like its real. Im lucky i have good family and friend’s but the nights are the worst for me i havent slept properly without him. Im returning to work in july so im hoping a bit of normality will help the process but it will take time for us all stay strong and keeping chatting when you feel low xx

It is now 5 days and the pain just continues. I feel sick inside, I can’t bear the thought of living without him. We were only together for a short time, but we did so much together , all our hopes and dreams have been wiped out.

Im so sorry your feeling like this it is so recent for you and i know the ache you feel inside is horrendous and it is to soon for you to feel any different at this moment in time you may have been together for a short time but you made lots of memories to cherish and fall back on . Your partner im sure would only want the best for you moving forward keep chatting and let your daughter be your strenghth you need people at the moment . Thinking of you x

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