I couldn’t see my husband as his injuries were multiple and too bad. So I never got to see him or say goodbye. It was a violent instant motorbike accident. I still cannot believe sometimes he’s never coming back.
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I just want to say that i send love and hugs to all of you who are grieving. On the 4th November it will be 2 months since my darling husband died and I an utterly bereft. I am on my own as I have no children and while I keep myself busy during the day, the evenings are desperately lonely. The pain we all feel is the price we have to pay for loving. I share in your pain and grief because we are all going through the same experience. The thing I find most difficult are people’s questions. They don’t mean to be insensitive but when they ask “And how did your husband die?” or “And how are you doing” or “can i help you sort out your husband’s clothes” I just burst in to tears. I try to be positive but am struggling to find a purpose in life or a reason to get up in the morning. My husband was my best friend and soulmate. We were together for 27 years and so very happy. Keep strong all of you and know that you are not alone
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Sending a big hug. We had no children either. Think the more people in your family the kore support.
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We too had no children and were married for just short of 50 years. It is very lonely.
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Oh it’s heartbreaking to hear everyone and in my experience there is no professional support out there, so thank you everyone you are all helping me just by being there and sharing your feelings.
I am struggling with the fact like Pudding our golden wedding anniversary is in December.
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@Janet47 . He died on 6 th June. Would have been 71 on 8th. Our 50th wedding anniversary was 24th July. We had been planning a party. Neighbours came in for a drink to celebrate his life on his birthday but I was alone on our anniversary. I am dreading my birthday on 14th December and then Christmas on my own. Neighbour has said if she is not too drunk after her Christmas lunch in a pub she will come over and we will drink champagne. These anniversaries are pure hell.
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I have my husband’s funeral tomorrow, I’ve been told I am strong, I don’t feel strong, I feel scared, sad and weak, how can this be happening.
We will honour him with the service, how did it come to this sad end x
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Why do people always tell you that you are strong?
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I had my husbands funeral last thursday. I got through it by thinking of it as Steves last hurrah. We had everything he would have wanted , an arrangement made of veg and flowers and steak and ale pie and chips afterwards.
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That sounds like a good sendoff well done
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Thankyou it was. I saw it as his last party. I missed him like crazy. It was the same place as our wedding 6 years in December andbthe church where we had our blessing. His dog followed his coffin out of church.
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That sounds very moving, you must have been very pleased with the day, well done for getting it so right.
I hope I will feel the same afterwards. I hope I remembered everything I need to. I think it might be sunny for a while too xx
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Sending hugs and prayers for tomorrow. Please let us know how it goes. Xx
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Thinking of you Kathy, I don’t where in the country you are but it’s sunny here in Wiltshire.
Be prepared for tomorrow and use us to support you.
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Thank you all for your kind thoughts, the funeral was really difficult for me but everyone there said how lovely it was. I felt sick and very sad but looking back I can only feel proud of how many people came and how the service summed my man up so well. The sun shone and our friends gathered to say goodbye. Oh my goodness now what xxx
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@Kathy6 . Now you survive the best you can 1 day at a time. You will have good days and bad days. Just try and achieve something however small everyday. Xx. Sandra
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I will certainly try, I think it will be very hard at times but with support I will give it my best.
How has your day been ? Xx
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1 day or 1 hour at a time . It’s 4 months since my husband died and I still have to take each hour at a time. The huge waves of distress and grief overtake me sometimes as I’m sure it does to you but I’m slowly learning to go with it and I think it’s better out than kept in. It’s a lonely strange scary place living without a husband and something that I think a lot of us didn’t ever think we’d be doing so soon. Big hugs to you.x
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@Kathy6 . As usual I have had a bit of a cry but have managed to tidy away a few more things. Hopefully got rid of 72 coffee pods and 400 latex gloves on Facebook. Arthritis not been too bad. I would say as things go these days a good day. Tomorrow hairdresser coming. Thursday friend coming to clean in morning and neighbour coming to collect some mugs for her MacMillan coffee morning. If my knees are ok I should be going to her coffee morning on Friday. Thursday also getting bed linen I ordered for spare bedroom delivered. I would say a productive week. It is all I can hope for coming up to 5 months since I lost my lovely Norman. Thanks for asking particularly after today. Xx. Sandra
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Morning, it sounds like you had a busy and productive day, how does it feel getting a few things done?
I’m hoping that now the funeral is over I can start to grieve without the fear of how the funeral was going to be is behind me. It was a lovely but so so sad occasion. Family and friends all attending. My daughter and grandsons are staying and that’s very comforting but they go soon.
I will be ok in time, but I’ve changed beyond anything I thought possible, a fragment of my former life now lies ahead. Must pick up the pieces and find my ‘big girl pants’ xx
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