Janet 47 how are you, iv had terrible few days and have been wondering how you are.x
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Hi Gypsy
Iām so sorry to hear that ,
I certainly donāt feel great, itās difficult to know what to do with oneself. My son left today after ten weeks supporting me, and being with his Dad before he died.
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How is everyone?
Itās nearly a week since I wrote on here. Feeling pretty awful, Iāve been busy but all I want is my husband and being busy isnāt the answer to warding off my misery.
I hope others are doing better.
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Hi Janet47 iv been thinking about you this week. Iv not been good and I had to have an emergency doctors appointment Tuesday as I just did not want to be here without my best true friend anymore. It has been an exhausting and soul searching week for me.
For you-now is the time after the funeral that you could feel peculiar, alone and may require great inner strength particularly if your son has left. You will absolutely find out who your true friends are and who truly cares and stands by you. You are always in my thoughts hun. X
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I hope your GP was able to offer you something, my experience is there is very little out there and I have found this group as good as it gets. Are you feeling any better at the end of the week? Today has been particularly bad because a frien was coming over to me but was unable to come because of the flooding. I am thinking of you and everyone in our situation, hang in there. X
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Thank you. Iām a bit better today as iv come off the atrocious meds they put me on which did more harm than good. Iām a lot calmer today. Better to be safe than sorry in these floods, it wonāt be for long and youl see your friend hun.x
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This is almost my story, all the best to you, my husbands funeral is next week, I hope to make him proud. Keep in touch
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Hi Kathy
I do hope your husbands funeral is all you hope for.
I have found this forum very helpful and supportive, if only to reassure me I am not alone on this awful journey.
Now the clocks have changed the evenings will be longer and more lonely, my children have been amazing but itās a fine line of letting them know how you feel and understanding that they have lost a much loved father and need to grieve in their own way too.
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Hi, yes itās important to think how other family members feel when you are devastated and overwhelmed. Itās hard isnāt it, I donāt feel I am coping well at all. I have lit the log fire and shut the cold wet world out tonight. Feeling very much calmer, take care x
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I think about each one of you who have contributed to this thread and although it would be wrong to take comfort in others pain it is helpful to know how I feel is not bizarre!
I had nothing organised today so by the time Iāve walked to town, bought things I donāt strictly need the rest of the day seems to stretch out in front of me like a gaping chasm.
Does anyone on here watch Strictlyā- I have always enjoyed it but so did my husband so itās less escapism now andā can I get through watching this on my ownā. I guess healing can only come by experiencing the pain. Good luck everyone.
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@Janet47 I do sort of watch strictly. I record it and then watch the dancing and avoid all the guff. My husband didnāt watch it the last few years except occasionally and usually to criticise the dancing. I have problems watching rugby union , rugby league and moto gp which we would both watch and enjoy. Havenāt really been able to watch it since.
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Sad to say a lot of what we used to watch doesnāt have great appeal any longer! I actually find it really difficult to concentrate on anything for long.
Strictly is trivial enough to be just about ok.
I wonder if this improves as time goes on.
I too wander to the shops for very little and just for something to do, I do hope to find purpose in life soon, will get back to volunteering next week and hope this helps. Wish me luck x
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@Kathy6 . Donāt know how but I did manage to binge watch COBRA Rebellion. But mostly watch mindless drive.
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Might give it a try thanks
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Hi I can hardly watch anything at the moment. And I hardly go out except to walk Frank my dog. Life is completely unbearable at the moment and the once gregarious outgoing and sparkly woman has vanished and Iām sad to say I donāt think shel ever come back.
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Poor Gypsy, I really feel for you, I have no idea where the real me has gone either. I am hoping I can find some of my old self at some point in the future and I hope with time you will come back to some extent. I doubly any of us can fully come back as we have lost so much. Keep trying and be kind and gentle with yourself.
Keep in touch with this site itās very encouraging x
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Oh Gypsy Iām not going to say you will get back that confident woman because I know nothing irritates me more than people being positive when Iām feeling negative!
I just really understand how miserable you feel, itās part of the process of grieving and I wish I could believe what I say myself!! But itās difficult.
Letās all keep in contact to support each other.
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I still have no idea how or why my life changed in a second 4 months ago. My husbandās inquest was postponed and I have no new date. Nobody seems to be in communication with me from police and I just have no answers to why my life died with my husband. And I didnāt get to see him and thatās really hurting me now. Doctors are referring me to mental health team as I just canāt see myself being here without my Andy. Iām just getting worse by the day and I am exhausted tbh. Sorry for pouring it out on here but itās a place where some people at least can understand me.
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Itās not been long for you, I could hardly get out of bed and felt sick all the time in the first weeks, Iām still exhausted most of the time and struggle with day to day things. Be gentle with yourself donāt expect to feel anything at all, itās terrible. When can you see your man, I think it would help you, it was a comfort for me to see my husband once heād passed away.
Be kind to yourself, keep in touch there is lots of help here x
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Gosh we are all going through it. My husband died 5 weeks ago after 10 days of illness. Only had the funeral last thursday but I now know he has gone. The shock is immense. Take every opportunity you get. I am currently looking at private counselling as Dove wonāt help until after 12 weeks. Good luck. Lufe sucks!
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