What I would really like to do, is sit down with someone not family,maybe a stranger. Hold their hand and for them to say. Give me your burden,let me carry a little while. Calm your mind from non stop thinking and wishing things were different,take the stress from your body so you properly relax. Forget this is real just for a while.
Then convince me there is a light at the end of the tunnel,dont know how far but its there and one day I will find it so peace will come.
Maybe then I can carry on because right now Im failing. It feels unbearable,this pain and heaviness.
Thank you so much for sharing this with the community
I’m so sorry that the pain and heaviness feel unbearable right now, and that it feels like there is no light. Many people on here will be able to relate to what you’re describing, and it’s really normal to want someone to sit with you and carry the burden for a while.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.
Hello Woody9
I find when I post on this website that, although the burden of grief is still mine, I can at least set it down for a while as I chat with fellow sufferers.
You said it would be nice just to forget that our situation is real for a while. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think the REAL world is the next world where our loved ones are waiting for us and I also think that our souls reside there as well. Several scientists have expressed the view that consciousness is beamed in to receivers in our bodies which means that our souls and those of our loved ones may well be where they always have been, with God.
As I say, it’s just the conclusion I’ve come to over the 18 months since I lost my wife but I hope it helps.
I think that, too. This is like a video game more or less. Not the real deal, but feels like it. When we exit our physical bodies and are our energy bodies again, it’s like phew, that was tough. I’ve heard many NDE’ers say that transitioning is like taking off a really heavy coat.
What you ask for is what our partners would do for us and one day will do again. For now we wait and muddle through.
I wonder sometimes when I pass someone walking on their own if they too belong to a group like this and are carrying the same sadness. Maybe we should wear a badge so we can recognise each other. Then we can sit and hold their hand and listen as it’s only us that understands.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Having some respite from the nightmare we all find ourselves in would be so welcome. I wish I could find comfort in my faith but I’ m struggling with that now. At the risk of sounding like a crazy person, what I want is to go back in time before my partner died suddenly, and for everything to be ok again. I hope you find as the months pass that the dark days become fewer. It is such a hard path we are all on now. Take care.
Hi Helen
Thats the complicated bit. Like you say there is only one person who can lift my burden,my husband but he is the reason I feel like this. I cant get my head round it. Im blaming him for feeling like this and for not being here to make me feel better!!! Its crazy!!
The emotions of grief are unfathomable,you get to feel every emotion there is ,usually in the same day.
Ive had a really low week this week probably because its exactly 6 months today.
Excuse my ramblings.
