Unsociable

My sister told me I make her feel uncomfortable when she visits me. I just over a year in with still so many issues surrounding my husbands death, I have 3 kids still at home the youngest 12 and autistic. He was the earner finically struggling, and emotionally struggling and I hate going out and seeing people, I don’t socialise and I’ve told her all this. But cos I’ve got nothing to say I make her feel uncomfortable and she says I need to let her in, I can’t even process or deal with it yet

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I don’t get on with my brother and he touches raw nerves. He has no idea how it feels to be widowed but his wife has got dementia so he concerned about his perspective. He did make an effort but when we wanted to visit we got put off. I think he has some issues himself because aftermath of when he had COVID. We have triggered each other. It is sad but I have an autistic son and since my husband died it has been tough.
I get over sensitive and have been touchy.
Comments and misunderstandings galore. My issues were making it hard for my other son to cope with. I look after my three young grandkids sometimes. Life is tricky

I am sorry to say this is so insensitive of your sister. The way i see it, it is not your job to make your sister happy, you are not making her uncomfortable. She is uncomfortable with your pain / loss / trauma, this is not your fault. You are being youself. I know I have no inclination to socialise now, I go to bed just after the kids, this is my new normal, I am not the same person I was.

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I agree my best mate doesn’t feel uncomfortable when she comes, I’m the same socially and straight to bed when the little one goes. I’ll be like this as long as it takes

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