This will be the third valentine’s day I’ve been on my own since losing my darling James.
It never gets any easier. I’m trying to get on with life but it’s been one step forward one step back for the past few months, this dull grey life can be shit at times.
I shall try and cheer myself up by listening to music, looking through photograph albums remembering all the happy times we had together with a glass or two of nice red wine.
Hello @Susie8,
Thank you for reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. You are not alone - many of our members find Valentine’s Day and other special dates really hard. You might find our advice on coping with grief on Valentine’s Day helpful to read: https://www.sueryder.org/grief-support/helping-you-cope-with-grief/your-first-valentines-day-after-the-death-of-a-loved-one/
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard.
Take care,
Alex
I’ve been crying all morning. It’s my first without Ray and it’s unbearable.
I suppose I’m shocked at feeling so bad as we never did anything for Valentines. Ray would laugh at me and say it’s all bs! But today just the fact that he’s not here has hit me like a ton of bricks. My heart is aching for him. The love of my life, my Ray x
Thinking of everyone else in this horrible situation today too.
Omg,
Your post is just what I was going to say:
3rd Valentine’s
Husband called James
Shitty grey life and weather
Glasses of red wine and music
But I will leave the albums, too upsetting.
Xxx
I hope I can eventually get to the stage where I can look at photos and smile instead of breaking my already broken heart. Most of the memories are good but they just remind me of what’s gone. I’m just under 5 months into my grief after my partner’s death, and it’s still so raw. It’s good that you can do that now.
Yes Valentine’s day. The other year I bought myself a bunch roses but not this year. Last year I got out his old valentine’s cards but not this year. I sent his son some hearts 
instead.
Sent a few hearts to a friend who broke up with her fellow and is low.
Not just when someone dies but when never had anyone is awful.
I feel sad never found anyone since I was widowed.
Don’t count if a person who was just using me.
It’s my first valentine day too I have our cards we sent each other last as I didn’t know if he would make this year with his cancer so I was going to put them out today but was to upset it’s hard on anniversary and special days my thoughts are with you