Valentine's day

Losing a partner
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Thank you so much Karen, your kind message means so much to me as I feel so sad today.
Love to you as well.
Jenny x

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I found this:

an interesting read and it suggests some strategies which can be used to make these significant dates a bit more manageable.

Commiserations to all who are struggling today - especially those whoā€™ve been dealt a double whammy.
Xxx

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Hi there
Am I missing something. We wasnā€™t that bothered about Valentines Day. We didnā€™t need to send cards to each other to acknowledge our love. I had flowers given to me all the time and I can honestly say I havenā€™t seen a Valentine card or any presents at all. Perhaps I am just not looking for them. and the day will pass for me.

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Have been very sad today and crying a lot put up a Valentine card Peter gave me years ago and i played our special song Sweet Sixteen by the Fureys we would have had a nice meal and a bottle of wine oh how i miss him and the times we used to share. Love to all today.

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Ah @Kingfisher sending lots of love to you on this tough day. Xx

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Yes, I think maybe you are missing something @Pattidot.

Foe what itā€™s worth, Iā€™m with you - Valentines Day meant absolutely nothing to me but, I can fully appreciate that not everyone thinks like me (and you?).

For some bereaved folk, this is a big deal - for others, not so much.

We all have significant dates that we struggle with and they will be personal to our own experiences though they may mean nothing to someone else.

I sympathise with anyone struggling on any day.
Xxx

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Hi there Winginit
What I meant by missing something was that I donā€™t go looking for Valentines cards and canā€™t say Iā€™ve seen one this year. It just didnā€™t interest us but I do acknowledge that to some people it is a big deal with lots of memories. But if it was going to upset me I just wouldnā€™t look at the cards or even acknowledge that the day existed. You could call it burying my head in the sand but it saves heartache at times. I do have days that are significant to me and I struggle with such as the date he died but Vanetines day, No.

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Valentines day was the day we started going out in 1998, so we would of been together 25 years on tuesday. My gorgeous hubby didnt need valentineā€™s day to spoil me (and me him) but we would always acknowledge that date with a meal out, cards, gifts, flowers sent to me in work. I was 1 of the only girls in work to get flowers. Just standing in the queue in the supermarket and the cards and red roses were there. Yes i agree its over commercialised. I stayed off social media and stayed away from rom coms and treated it like just anotger sh## day lke they all are for all of us.
Love and hugs to all