I’m thinking of you today my love
But then that’s nothing new
I was thinking of you yesterday
And the day before that too
They say that memories are golden
Well maybe that is true
But I never wanted memories
I only wanted you
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@LarryVal hi Larry I am so very sorry for your loss and the heartache you are going through this life we have now is horrendous without our soulmates please take care of yourself you are in my thoughts stay safe
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It really is horrendous and empty this life with out our soul mates. Its cruel!
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Beautiful x
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Aw what a beautiful photo. Was your wife Italian. She has lovely dark eyes. So devastating for you to loose her after such a long struggle. My thoughts are with you.
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Yes she was beautiful inside and out.
I was so very lucky to have met her.
When I first saw her I too thought she was ‘European’ but she was an English Rose, her surname was Smith.
She was a caring, gentle, loving woman, all that I wanted.
She had a tough life with many childhood illnesses.
Then her mother got Breast Cancer, Valerie cared for her till the end.
Valerie grieved for her mother and ‘lived’ on a sofa for 2 years before I met her.
She gave me the best 16 years of my life.
I will always love Valerie.
Thank you Treehugger.
Thank you for sharing her photo LarryVal. I was so moved when I saw it, you can see her gentleness. She must have been very special indeed. Big hugs for you.
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Valerie passed on 12/04/2021.
We used to watch TV together and both thought it’s full of rubbish channels.
A couple of days after Valerie passed the TV just went blank and refused to turn on.
I took this to be a ‘sign’ from Valerie.
A month later I contacted a TV repair company to come and pick up the TV to get it repaired.
They missed the pickup appointments 3 times.
I told them not to bother anymore.
Got a knock on the door from the TV licence people, “I sorry Valerie has passed away and I don’t need a licence”.
Maybe 4 or 5 letters from the TV licence people warning me to pay up.
Anyway, I take delivery of a new TV tomorrow and will get a new licence.
We’ll see if Valerie sends another ‘sign’…
Having difficulty with memories of Valerie.
Her last 6 months were traumatic for us both, but worse for Valerie.
The drugs she was put on changed her physically and mentally, she had brain Cancer and was paralyzed down one side, half blind and almost deaf, how cruel can you be.
She was at home in a hospital bed.
I can’t think of Valerie before she was diagnosed with the brain Cancer, no memories.
Only memories of her after diagnosis.
I hope memories of before diagnosis return.
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It’s been 3 months now and I still haven’t informed Teachers Pension or Hargreaves about Valerie’s passing.
I don’t know why I can’t do it, I start to prepare then just can’t do it.
Valerie was the organised one, VERY organised.
@LarryVal hi I am so sorry you are going through this heartbreak I’m glad you have had signs from Valerie and I hope the memories of her before the diagnosis return for you as for those you have not informed you will do it on time my thoughts are with you stay safe take care x
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When my Mum died, my Dad couldn’t bring himself to do all the forms for a few months too. It was just too much for him, mainly because his health took a turn for the worst temporarily but I think he wouldn’t have been able to do it anyway. How do you go from living with somebody, sharing all your days with them, looking after them when they’re ill and being cared for by them, to filling in their name on a form? I think ‘death admin’ is a shockingly harsh part of bereavement. I did most of it as Dad couldn’t and it made me ill. So Larry give yourself the time, you will get it done. We had to go through Teacher’s Pensions too as Mum was a teacher. They were actually pretty quick once we’d got sorted. But yeah, I was devastated every time I filled in one of those forms.
Trauma is real so just know that you’re doing your very best. I’m so sorry to hear what Valerie went through, and you with her. Although there were moments at the end of Mum’s life (in the hospital etc.) that I’ll treasure forever, overall I’m finding it very hard to live with the pain of what she went through. Have to be very gentle with ourselves, though often I’m punishing myself instead. Hugs.
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