Hi Norma1. The sunny days can work the exact opposite. I get up in the morning and it’s a lovely day, then I think if Theresa was still with me we could be away somewhere in the car,or sitting in the garden, but we would do something together .Take care
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Do whats right for you, 4 years on and i go to my mums resting place once a month,
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No one can advise you how to grieve, everyone is unique in how to deal with it. I lost my lovely wife 2 years ago after 48 years of marriage, it would have been our golden aniversary this year.
I visit the weeping willow tree around which I spread her ashes 3 or 4 times a week at the crematorium gardens, very peaceful. One man I know there has been visiting his wife’s resting place for 9 years. There is no rule.
Continue with what you are doing and follow your own path. Only you will know if there will come a time to change. I know I never will.
Best wishes.
Keith.
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Hi Alex, I visit the cemetery about 3-4 times a week and it will be 3 years next month since I lost my husband. Do what is right for you. Take care x
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Thanks Yorklan I’m just getting ready to go and visit Theresa again.
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Good on you Alex im just on my way to see Jackie with flowers 
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I go to the cemetery every week,to speak to Margaret and tell her what going on and put flowers down it has been 13 months since she passed aged 57.Nights are the worst take care.
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My husband died two years ago on 30 August and I go to the cemetery every Monday morning without fail come rain or shine. I go to tell him things and as silly as it sounds ask his advice or reaffirm something I am thinking. I feel he is around me all the time but the cemetery is where he is resting and quietly waiting for me. For me it’s a way of keeping him close and letting him know I’m still here, still love him and always will. For me it’s a place of comfort and I’m sure it’s the same for you. God bless X
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I went today because my husband’s birthday would be next week. I brought a dozen red roses (they were opening this morning) in a vase. I weeded and cleaned some stuff up. I was emotional as I drove there. It’s an old historic cemetery and beautiful. I always know I’m close when I see the back silouhette of a very large statue of Catholic Mary, very beautiful image.
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I lost my wife 2 years ago on the 29th. August. I also visit her place of rest, actually ashes scattered around a weeping willow tree in the gardens of the crematorium. I cannot let go and will always pay her a visit. Those who have never been through this will never understand, but I do.
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I think nowadays the idea of “continuing bond” has replaced the older ideas of “letting go.” This is prob. because, as a collective, we are getting closer to the truth that they are still “there,” not physically, but energetically, spiritually. Their consciousness and presence is there, it hasn’t “left.” When Claire Broad talks to departed people, she says they’re not “playing the harp on a cloud,” but right there. Mark Pitstick calls them “Post material People,” another interesting way to describe.
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