Vivid Dreams

Losing a partner
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Here we go with another difficult weekend…started in the worst possible way with another vivid dream in which things were all ok…then I woke up to reality again :pensive: Anybody else have such dreams?..it’s like rubbing salt into an already deep wound…and yet I wouldn’t want to stop having them…it’s all I’ve got now…:face_with_peeking_eye:

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Hi @UnityMan . Not long after my husband died, I had a wonderful dream , I was in a shop and seen my husband ,so I dragged him outside and was kissing and hugging him .then we were in his car and I was crying saying the DR had said he had died. He was laughing at me and said well I haven’t I’m here with you. I started saying this had better not be a dream,then I woke up. I would love to have that dream every night.just to hear him say he isn’t, he is here with me . I don’t seem to dream about him now.but it’s strange I sometimes remember a dream, and know he was in it ,but he never speaks to me ,it’s like there is a distance between us.i can’t really explain it.he is there but not the focal point of the dream . Xtake carex

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I have similar dreams…it’s so cruel when you wake up and realise it was a dream…:sleepy:

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I have dreams too they hurt so much when you wake up .

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Yes UnityMan, I sometimes have dreams but not as many as I used to. I’m always searching from room to room trying to find Pete and when I do he’s usually got his back to me but I know it’s him and I’m asking him where he’s been. Sometimes he’ll look at me but never speaks and yes it the worst possible start to the day. When I wake It was so real that I think for a moment that it was true. Rubbish way to start the day…
Jenny

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Hi, after my husband’s funeral I had a dream where I was taking to him. I was telling him I had a dream that he had died and I planned and went to his funeral telling him all about it. It was so real and when I first woke up I was unsure of what the reality was. Took me a few minutes to realise it was real that he had gone. :cry: It was like a dream within a dream.

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I have had similar dreams…very strange…and very painful when reality kicks in again :heartpulse:

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Yes; I don’t know if it’s because I’m not sleeping so well since I lost my partner, but I do have these dreams. Sometimes I wake and I know I’ve been dreaming even if I can’t remember what happened in the dream, and sometimes I remember what happened. The overall effect is very disturbing and, as people have said, it’s waking up to the reality once again of being alone. (In the early days it physically felt like turbulence on a plane, but that sensation seems to have calmed down more recently.) And the end result is usually to set me off on a day of troubled feelings once more.

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Yes i have this too. It is heart renching when you wake and the reality sets in again. The stillness of the house, no sound no life no purpose , just loneliness and isolation again today. Carnt face it out there.

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I so understand the silence is so horrible , the emptiness makes my life feel futile . It’s so hard to face each day without my partner anymore .
I feel like an alienated when I’m with others they are how I used to be and will never be again.

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My husband had renal and pelvic bone cancer and because of his immobility used a wheelchair. Not long after he passed away, I had a vivid dream, I was looking out of a window, a wheelchair at my side, and saw him running down the road. I met him and he kissed me. Although a dream, it was wonderful to see him out of the wheelchair,

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