Probably a stupid question to ask as there is no time to grief
How long will this early morning churning tummy last ? Am getting very despondent
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Hello @Copenhagen1,
Iām so sorry for the loss of your husband. Thank you for sharing this with us. Iām just giving your thread a gentle, ābumpā for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care,
Alex
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Hi Copenhagen1
So sorry for your loss.
I lost both my parents within 16 weeks of each other, last year. We buried my Mum 2 weeks before Christmas.
Since my Dad died in the summer, Iāve had a churning feeling in my stomach and a general feeling of unease.
Whilst Iām sorry you are suffering, I am somewhat relieved to know Iām not the only one with physical symptoms.
I feel like someone has taken me apart and put me back together , the wrong way.
I used to go to bed at night, feeling content and relaxed.
Now I toss and turn, canāt settle and just feel very out of sorts. Itās hard to explain. The same feeling washed over me during the day.
I donāt know when it will end, Iām exhausted.
I wish you well and send you support. Take care.
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Itās a long old night when going to bed is not something to look forward to.
I do sympathise so much.
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Iām finding the first few minutes of the day the hardest to cope with. I wake up and feel uneasy and stressed. Iām new to this, my husband died a week ago.
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For me itās a feeling of dread .
Another day to get through it ,morning and night .
Can you manage a wee digestive biscuit and tea ,so there is at least something in your tummy either at night or first thing .
Sending loving thoughts to all
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Bless you. That is so hard That moment when you realise youāre on your own. Itās the heartbreak of the whole situation. Are you in your own in the house or do you have family ?
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Iāve survived on herbal calm tea and ginger nuts
Thereās me and the cat! I have kind neighbours and friends so Iām grateful for that
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Sunday is always a horrible day for some reason for me. I just canāt get over being so sad on this day
I woke up today and donāt really want to get out of bed but I have to ā
Wakening, and then realising our loved ones are gone, is like losing them afresh. Every day. Itās relentless.
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My counsellor says that grief doesnāt ever go away and doesnāt get smaller , but if you put grief in a jar then eventually other things in the jar fill it up and allows you to not feel the grief constantly. I totally got that - does that make sense
I also have the same feelings when I wake up. I lost my wife 10 days ago so itās very early in the grieving process. She was in hospital for over 5 weeks before she died and I had that feeling of dread then. I miss the cups of coffee and the chat.
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Bless you. Take a day at a time. Even an hour at a time Feelings are so all over the place
Thank you. Itās very early days for you too.
Numb1, I can really relate. My husband went into respite care on 7th January and then hospital where he died on 31st I had the house to myself for that time, but itās different when you know this is the way itās going to be. I miss the coffees and silly jokes
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Mag4 I understand, itās the easy conversation about whatās going on, what you are going to do or just any old rubbish. Hope you can find a way through.
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So sorry for your loss, Numb1. I send you support. I cope with grief one day at a time, but it often washes over me when I least expect it .
Take care of yourself .
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Hi i know exactly what you mean and are going through. I wake up every day with that feeling after losing my wife 2 months now. Your feeling the effect of anxiety so try to focus on that aspect of your grief. I can hardly eat till teatime each day because of the feeling of anxiety. Hope it gradually eases for you.x
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Hello six
I hope your anxiety lessens too.
Wishing you a peaceful weekend .
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