Lost my mum end of November I miss her so much I cry at night and wake up with what I can explain as pain …. I wonder does the pain ever go. My husband expects me to move on ….but I can’t I am missing my mum alone cos the husband and son seem fine but I am still extremely sad and want help to feel happy again but I don’t think I will ever be myself again with my mum been here. I miss her and I want to feel her with me but it’s an can’t which makes it even more harder. I want to feel like me again but I feel like I am lost forever without my mum. I am hurtiny and missing her alone in my house and I want her be back. I’m at work busy to think but when in alone after work then pain returns. I miss my mum and I need her.
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Hi @Sadandnumb
Thank you so much for sharing this with the community 
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.
Take good care,
Alex
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Of course you miss your mum. I miss my mum (lost 28th October)and I will always miss my mum. I talk to her all the time and I honestly find that helps. I finally lost it with one individual who told me to pull myself together and I shouted back at them. Do you really think that I wouldn’t if I could?
If your close family don’t understand what you’re going through at the moment do you have any close friends who you could talk to instead? Failing that a number of the grief helplines can be very helpful as you can be your honest self with them and not worry about upsetting other people or having to deal with their baggage when you’ve got enough baggage of your own. The physical pain of grief is something I’m all too familiar with.
As time goes on, I have found some days are better than others which offers some hope, but grief is a pretty constant companion. I also try to think of what my mother would want for me and what she would say and I know she would want me to be happy and I know she would want me to find joy again and that helps deal with any occasional guilt when I finally do laugh at something or enjoy something because I can tell myself with honest truth that my mother would be happy that I had found these things to make me laugh. I know it’s a cliche, but I really do find it helps to take it one day at a time. Hang on in there.
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Thanks so much for your reply @tryingtokeepgoing I think your right .I speak to my best friend and yes that has helped and your thoughts on been happy again. Is exactly what my mum wants I know too the ache pain. Tho is still there . I appreciate your support .I go on here when I feel I need to speak to others who understand and that helps ….so thank you for your reply I really really appreciate it xxxx
Sorry your hurting so much unfortunately real love brings real grief when we lose someone. I lost my wife just over a year ago and yes it’s painful and lots of other emotions come into play guilt sadness longing separation and why? Its hard to comprehend i know. It doesn’t help when people even with good intention try to rational especially if they have never experienced such a loss. Its a very personal thing. You will never be happy about losing your mum but I hope you can find comfort in knowing as I do that she is still with you in spirit and you will meet again our consciousness lives on after leaving our physical existence. I am not trying to preach but after extensive research the knowledge is out there if you want to explore and make your own mind up. Although I have always believed in spirit my journey to better understand and further my journey I would recommend a book by Raymond Moody Md who has done extensive research from being skeptical to belief. Called Life after Life. I wish you comfort and support on your journey.
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