Hi my Mum died when I was pregnant with my first child. Now just as everything is getting better my fil who I live next door to is terminal with liver cancer and has a short prognosis I believe.
He’s very close to my oldest boy who is 6. They farm together. He looked after my boys as I have health struggles. He’s only 66. My husband doesn’t communicate very well and has 2 brothers the same.
It’s not my close family but I just cant bear watching this. My mum had a pain free quick ending. As the cancer went to her brain. I have this terrible feeling it’s going to be painful and difficult for my F in law. They dont have as many friends around them and don’t speak to certain family. Mil is a hoarder which is getting worse. Although a huge house it will be very difficult if macmillian etc become involved. My husband is working 7 days a week indefinitely which is unsustainable.
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Hello @Jenwot7,
I’m Seaneen, and I’m part of the Online Community team. I wanted to say thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your father-in-law.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few resources which might be helpful right now.
- Our Supporting someone at the end-of-life pages contain practical advice for those helping someone close to death and information about what you can expect when death is near.
- Our Anticipatory grief page talks about the feelings associated with grief in the days, months or years before someone dies. This is known as anticipatory grief, as you are grieving for someone who is still alive.
- Our Helping children and young people pages have lots of help, advice and useful information for families of someone with a terminal illness, including supporting a child or young person when someone is dying and telling a child about someone’s terminal diagnosis.
Macmillan offers support to the families of people living with cancer. They have an online chat which is open until 8pm every day. They also have a free support line which you can call on 0808 808 00 00. This is support you can access for yourself - it doesn’t involve anyone coming to your or your father-in-law’s home.
I hope you find the community a good source of support to you.
Take good care - you are not alone.
Seaneen
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