Today is our wedding anniversary. I lost my wife six months ago unexpectedly aged 48.
I don’t know where to put myself. I’ve got work in the morning, my kids study away from home and I’m on my own.
I miss my wife so much. My heart is broken. How will I ever get through today x
Anniversaries are the worst aren’t they. I lost my husband in November, so it is also 6 months for me. Our wedding anniversary was the 5th April and the start of the Easter holidays. I drove to France to escape being at home for it and to put my mind to something positive. Standing under the same sky that we had done the previous summer helped a little and was a comforting tribute to my loving husband. Incidentally the 4th of Aprill is my dad’s birthday who passed 3 years ago in October. Both the most influential men in my life have now gone and I miss them both dearly. I still seek their opinions on the decisions I make and their approval for the way I conduct myself. I just hope that wherever they are that they are together and pain free but looking over me still x
I saw this some time ago " Time will not stop a heartache, nor stop a silent tear, or take away the memories of one we held so dear." So true for me. I try and hang on to the Happy memories and relive them, and accept that the other two happen as the price of the love we had.
It took a while, but I eventually realised that most anniversaries celebrate happy occasions, so why not keep celebrating them, remembering the good times we had.
So I always do something special in her memory, maybe revisiting somewhere we were happy together, or something challenging and new. Such as climbing a mountain, potholing, or learning a musical instrument and playing her a song on one of our favourite beaches.
I spend most of the day smiling, and thinking nicely of her.
She deserves smiles, not tears, and I’m certain she would want the same for me.
But we have to be brave at the start, it’s not easy, but all my future anniversaries are awaited with optimism.
Good luck!
Tykey, I am with you on that. I am going to try and celebrate what we had and remember the happy times rather than crying over the loss. I do not know if I can do it but I am going to try. A someone who has been through this a fair time ago told me. When you have had a fantastic holiday you remember the good time you had, you do not morn coming home. Hope you celebrations are good and happy. Good for you.
Hi @Rob05 . The very first anniversary (Wedding), I went on holiday to the place in Carmarthenshire where we spent many happy holidays. It was difficult to start with as I remembered specific things, Like “Do you remember when we walked down this path and saw a red squirrel?”, and I had some emotional moments. As the week went on, the sad emotions began to fade and I could smile at the memories. Since then, it has got easier and easier as I celebrated other anniversaries.
I’ve no more anniversaries until March next year, so I’ve got plenty of time to decide what to do. I’m thinking of going up in a gyrocopter
Whatever you do, she’ll be smiling, knowing that you care. The very best of luck to you!
I lost my wife on 17 November, so 6 months for me too. Our wedding anniversary was on 15 April. We were married on the day of the Hillsborough disaster, so double things happening on that date. I was sitting on Mary’s favourite place, the balcony at our French home, with a glass of wine, as she always did. It wasn’t easy, but I felt I had to do it to get rid of any future difficulties. I find doing things head on helps. If I let my heart rule my brain, I’ll end up doing nothing. I also watched our wedding video on our anniversary, which actually gave me a good laugh, and the reminders of the happy memories. xxxx
Well done, that is what I am now trying to do.