Tomorrow would have been my 26th wedding anniversary but is the first without my wife who passed away in April. I have taken this week off work as I knew I would struggle but I have found it extremely hard. I have spent my time looking at our wedding photographs and watching the video, these are things I haven’t done in years and it feels like I am torturing myself but it is something I need to do.
Tomorrow I’m going to buy some flowers and then drive to the coast and walk on the beach on my own.
How have others coped with the their first anniversary?
It was our 10th Wedding Anniversary last Friday, 23rd August. Andy passed on 15th July so we didn’t quite make it to double figures!! It was a very hard day but I think the anticipation of the day was the worst bit. I walked a section of the South West Coastal Path with a very dear friend, she was our ‘unofficial’ bridesmaid. We cried, but also laughed as we remembered what a beautiful and special day it had been. In the end, we had a lovely day. I’ve decided I’m going to do some sort of challenge or adventure for every special date from now on. Sending you strength and good wishes that you find some joy on your special day xx
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@Ginger68 thats a beautiful idea. I think your right as well its the anticipation about the day that makes things worse. I have the funeral tomorrow and have decided i dont care if im the only one there or there is hundreds that cant get in. Im doing what Tony would have wanted me to do and i will find the strenght not to crumble and celebrate the time we had together
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I feel the same, it is a hard one, on the day of our anniversary, I started the day, not quite sure what to do.
I then went for a walk, to clear my head. Later on that day I cooked what would have been his favourite meal and watched a film he loved to watch.
Tomorrow will be three years to the day he died, I am planning to go and visit my granddaughter who is in hospital, but doing really well, how the day will go remains to be seen x
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My husband passed away on 26th June this year. It would be our 10th wedding anniversary on Friday, 30th August. I’m not sure how I’m going to cope with it. Earlier in the year I had thought we would have a small celebration with Bill’s son and daughter and their families - now it’ll be me on my own 
My stepdaughter is coming over on Saturday as she works during the week and we’re going out for lunch.
Life can be so cruel and I hate my life without my Bill.
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