Iam curious to know what other widow(ers) are currently wearing on their third finger, left hand ?
After 8 months of bereavement I have swopped my original gold wedding band for a black wedding ring.Black seemed more appropriate.
I know that there is no right or wrong way in this matter,but I feel that this better reflects the way I feel at the moment.I am a 65 year old male,married for 40 years.
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My husband had cut off my original wedding ring a few years ago because I had go so big. After the event, he died in February, I took my wedding ring, engagement ring and eternity ring to a jewellers to have them resized and where them on my left had as I always had. Only problem is that since he went I’ve lost over 4 stone and so they’re getting a bit loose now! I think we all have to decide what’s best for us. I too am 65 and we were married for nearly 43 years. Basically, there are no rules about how to behave, what to wear etc so we should do what we feel happy with. xx
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I am still wearing my own rings and my husbands wedding ring on my right hand! J x
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@reluctantloner
There is absolutely no reason for not wearing your wedding ring and engagement ring, I will never take mine off and I know ladies who lost their husbands years ago and they still wear them.
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@reluctantloner I still wear my wedding & eternity rings. I have no intention of not wearing them.
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I still wear my wedding ring as normal and now also my wife’s on my little finger next to it.
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I tried to wear it on my right hand but it was very uncomfortable. So I have it on my bedside now
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I got diagnosed with hypothyroidism and packed on a whole bunch of weight so my engagement ring and wedding band don’t fit me anymore and they havent for a couple of years so I haven’t been wearing them. I have now started to lose weight and when the weight comes off enough so that I can wear them again, I will be putting them all on my right hand.
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Im still married in my mind. so wear my rings. I was married over 45 years and it would feel so odd to take it off. Im 64 and it will stay there until I die
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I still am married too, wouldn’t dream of taking my wedding ring or engagement ring off.
I had my husband’s wedding resized. I was wearing it on my right hand fir a few months, but then needed as n operation on my right hand , so moved his wedding ring to my left hand too.
There it will stay forever. So I wear my wedding ring , next to my husband’s wedding ring, and then my engagement ring. It feels right. I love that our wedding rings are touching.
But as has been said…these are all very personal choices, and whatever we individually decide, is what is right.
Love and hugs to you all
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Absolutely and I do love the idea of a black band. It seems appropriate.
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I’m wearing my husbands ring, with my eternity ring. I have lost my original ring, so the replacements are on my other hand.
I like the idea of a black ring though. Even now I like jewellery!
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I will always wear my wedding, engagement and eternity rings. I also have my husbands wedding ring on a chain around my neck. Everyone does what feels right for them .x
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It’s only been 10 months or so, so I can’t quite imaging not wearing my wedding ring. It’s funny though because we were together over 20 years before we got married. We only got married a year after she was diagnosed, so really we’re only married 3 out of 25 years being together, but for
some obscure reason it grounds me. Some day, be it six months from now, a year, maybe two I might take it off. For now she still IS my wife, not WAS my wife.
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Exactly same as me ! I have realised today that people who are married really dont understand what it is like for us now !!! I recently got talking to a guy near me who is divorced and you know what we had a really good chat and ive just realised that it is because neither of us are married anymore and we were on the same level as each other. I not seen him much since cos of this awful weather, but he lives quite close by , i have just sussed it … xxxx
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Fair enough xxx
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I will never take my band off . My wife gets cremated on saturday in hers and ill be still wearing mine when i go
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Aw did she ? I dunno if i shouldve done that with my husbands ? He didnt wear it all the time though … so instead i wear it on my right hand snd still got my wedding ring on. Comforting isnt it ? X
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I feel the same, I still consider myself married. We do what we’re most comfortable with, there’s no wrong way to do this. Bug hugs to all of us suffering this misery x
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I still wear my wedding ring and I have his ring on my right hand.
I will wear it for the rest of my life as I will be proud to always be his wife. 
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