Morning , i started to notice my clothes were getting looser. i weighed myself and ive lost 2 and a half stone in 8 weeks. ive been on anti sickness tablets since my nan passed. but has anyone else lost their appetite. im eating but not very much. its been six months since my lovely nan. passed and i feel the exact same i did the day she passed away. really feel low still struggling , ive started a journal and write down everything i would talk to my nan about its helping and it was recommended to me on here. i just feel like i have morning sickness everyday. ive tried bach and cyclizine deep breathing mindfulness.all i can manage is a slimfast replacement drink.
Hello @Chelle-luan, I’m sorry that you’re having trouble eating. You are not alone - many of our members will have gone through similar things - losing your appetite is a really common physical symptom of grief.
Two and a half stone is a lot of weight to lose in 8 weeks - it may be worth making an appointment with your GP to see what support they can offer you with your nutrition, as well as support for your grief. We also have Online Bereavement Counselling which you may wish to consider, too.
Please do take good care of yourself - some people can find it helpful to make a bit of a self-care plan. We have some tips on that here, if you would like to take a look.
Thank you for your message, im seeing the gp today. its good to know there is online support, i need all the support I can get at the moment. im also having bad dreams so my sleep is disturbed too.
Hi, im so sorry for the loss of your husband, im reallt struggling to keep food down. same as your our grief is still so raw, i hope you feel better soon always here if you want to chat
I am so sorry to hear how much grief is affecting you physically too. I have also lost over a stone since losing my husband in January. I am just not hungry so I forget to eat and I cant be bothered to make and cook meals for me. My children have been worried so have started to invite themselves for dinner in the week so that makes me cook a meal and then I will eat with them. I have this constant nervousness feeling in my stomach which I know is anxiety so that makes it harder to swallow anything. My friend brought me soup today which is easier to swallow. Its really sad isn’t it how grief totally consumes you. xxx
That what i find just do not feel hungry i think its because i was used to having a meal with my husband and now can not be bothered to cook any more i also wake up during the night and my heart is beating really fast and i feel so alone been told by someone it could be anxiety as it happens when i try to go out of the house
Yes I have the same fast heartbeat when I wake in the middle of night too I am sure it is anxiety for me as it came on only when my husband died. It also happens in the day at odd times when I am driving, alongside the nervousness in my stomach. I try deep breathing and also play meditation music at night to try and help me relax . I suppose we just have to try and find what works xx
ive litrally tried everything to relax i wake up several times a night having bad bad sweats im even on anxiety medication as a last resort and on sleeping tablets too,
grief is unberable, its been 6 months and i still feel the same as i did the day my nan passed, people say it gets easier but i dont think it will. i cry so much till im physically sick and even then i have nothing to be sick on so its just heaving and wrenching my stomach hurts so much.
Hi Chelle
Thank your for your message and I am so sorry for the loss of your lovely nan and all you are experiencing. I really don’t think it gets easier but I hope in time the grief becomes part of us and we learn how to carry it with us . I do understand the stomach wrenching and it all feels like a physical pain. I expect your nan, like my husband, would be encouraging us to eat and not want us to be in so much pain. If it was me that had died I know I would hate knowing my husband was in so much distress. I am going to try your idea of making and freezing soups, that way there will be something warm and nourishing that can easily be prepared. I am with you on your journey and hopefully together we can start to heal
lots of love
Sandi
lost my wife in july 22 a carer for her and so done all the cooking since she passed I have no interest in cooking for my self ive lost 2 stone but for some strange reason I feel guilty for cooking a meal for myself
awwww thats lovely Sandi, i have a soup maker its great and always something in the freezer, yes your right your lovely husband and my nan wouldnt want us to be going through heartache and not eating. my nan coped without my grandad for 20 years and she would always say you have to look after yourself. easier said than done tho. im on anti sickness tablets from the gp. they help but i still dont eat properly… couldnt believe when i got on the scales. take care and speak soon
Hiya, im so sorry for your loss of your wife. Aww i really feel for you its not easy living alone and cooking. i find soup really is the only thing i can keep down
Hi, Im so sorry for your loss. I lost my sister 2 months ago and like you the weight has fallen from me. I fully relate to the sick nervous feeling you have constantly, its so hard to eat anything when your stomach is in knots. Ive been buying complan drinks to try and build myself up and like you I do breathing exercises to try and calm myself.
I suppose its part of the grieving process and hopefully will pass. Your nan is watching over you and is always with you, she wants you to be happy.
Hiya, im so sorry for the loss of your sister . yes the weight seems to be just falling off me too, im on cyclizine anti sickness tablets and i have IBS my tummy feels like knots everyday. i have type 2 diabetes so on meds that have to been taken with food all i manage is a slimfast shake in the morning. that keeps me going. also like you i do breathing excersises helps sometimes.
sending hugs always here to chat
love Chelle xx
im even on anxiety medication as a last resort and on sleeping tablets too,
. yes the weight seems to be just falling off me too, im on cyclizine anti sickness tablets and i have IBS my tummy feels like knots everyday. i have type 2 diabetes so on meds that have to been taken with food all i manage is a slimfast shake in the morning. that keeps me going. also like you i do breathing excersises helps sometimes.