Weird dreams

Hello :slight_smile:

I was just wondering if anyone else has weird or wonderful dreams about their loved ones?

My mum passed away in August this year, and since then, I’ve had a few dreams about her. One felt very real, like I was actually talking to her about her passing. One was a bit less “exciting” and I saw her face in a crowd, staring up at me, not smiling. I’ve had a couple of nightmares about her passing too, and then I had a dream last night about her… that they got her out of her grave and coffin and woke her up for me. We were in a room where they’d done that with a lot of people. It felt like visiting hours at a hospital or something. The deceased looked well and were chatting. It was a bit scary at times, but I loved being able to talk to my mum again, and have some hugs with her, and ask her questions I’m desperate to know the answers to.

Does anyone else have these sorts of dreams? How do you feel about them? The lovely ones, I just don’t want to wake up and for it to end. The scary ones, I find the thoughts linger with me through the day and I have “daymares” where I panic and insist that people start talking AT me a lot to make me stop thinking about the horrible images and thoughts that are invading my mind…

Take care,
Kim x

Hi Kimberly, for about a month before my wife passed away I had a strange dream every night in which the wedding ring disappeared from my ring finger. What I find perplexing about this is that although she had been ill for some time, during that month her health had appeared to be steadily improving.

I also have less pleasant dreams in which I hear her calling me for help which wake me up and leave me shaking. Earlier this year she was confined to a hospital bed at home for a couple of months and would often need my help during the night. I find this dream particularly disturbing because I was away from home when she passed away and I wonder if had I been there could I have helped her?

Take care

Hello Kimberley, I am so sorry for your loss. It is a very hard time for everyone who has lost their loved one. I lost my husband three years ago after a long illness where I was his 24/7 carer for about 2.1/2 years. The first year after he died I was woken every single night by him calling my name for me to help him, I jumped out of bed then realised it was a dream. I also heard banging on the front door as if it was being knocked down by a battering ram, I jumped up and looked out of the bedroom window but there was nothing, then I realised that the banging would have woken up the whole street so again I realised it was a dream. This third year I now dream about my husband such a lot, I can see him stood in front of me, talking about different makes of cars being stolen. It is so weird but so real. The thing is, I dream of him when he was young not as he got older, when I see him in my dreams he looks like the young man I met 50 years ago. My late mum used to dream about my dad who died 30 years before she did and in her dreams my dad was holding out his hand to her and it really upset her so she went to see a medium who told her not to take his hand as it was a sign he was asking her to go with him. If my husband held out his hand to me I would take it without a second thought. I do hope in time things will get better for you but it is such early days yet, like I say, it is three years for me and I am still grieving for my husband. We never get over the loss of our loved ones we just try and learn to live day to day without them, but the future is very bleak when you have lost someone you loved with all your heart and know you have to carry on without them for the rest of your life. Take care, Sheila xxxx

Yes, I’ve had really compelling dreams where I’ve been with my Pa & Ma (who died within a couple of years of one another) and where I’ve been aware that they’re dead, but have been grateful for the opportunity to hear this voices again and to have some contact. I have had the sense that they’re both sorry to have left me somquickly and with so little warning, which was the case for both of them. I find these dreams very comforting and it is so nice to " hear" them again. Before Ma died, I had a really vivid dream of my Pa, sitting on the top step of their staircase, with Ma hugging him & telling me," He doesn’t know he’s died. He’s confused." I told Ma about this dream and she seemed comforted by it.

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I had a weird dream last night in which the family and I were planning my late husband’s memorial service and had the date set and everything booked. Oddly my husband was there as well. Then he got a message about another event he said he absolutely had to attend and he apologized for not being there for his funeral.