I’ve been doing that searching of my mind thing that we all seem to do in this unwanted land of widow/widower.
I know we definitely aren’t all the same but one thing the majority of us have in common is we didnt ever want to be here.
Maybe it’s because my day is going ok but I’ve decided we all need a “well done” we might not want it but we need it.
My husband always loved the fact I’m a supporter of people not a negative.
So here goes.
Well done guys.
well done for getting out of bed.
Well done for making a drink.
Well done for managing to open the door & walk.
Well done for watching the TV or reading a book.
I know some of you aren’t there yet but keep going.
I know deep in my heart, under all the chaos, my husband would be thrilled I’d praised myself & tried to support others. 
Beacon, yes. Well done ladies and gentlemen.
Getting out of bed, showering, getting dressed and eating are milestones now. Good on you all.
Step by step, hour by hour, day by day. We are all going to make it.
Much love.
This post has given me a real boost, thank you as I seem to be having a bit of a dip, I think because Christmas is round the corner. Anyway, overall I am proud of myself and my darling husband would be too. Huge hugs.X
@Frankie_24 Keep going. Even on days when you use all the strength you have to just tell yourself “well done”
Very well said. I’m always reminding myself of my achievements, and when things don’t go well and I get panicky I just remind myself nothing is worse then losing your love. Round of applause to you all for surviving another day.
Thankyou for reminding me to be more positive. My husband would do this. He encouraged others to do small things to help each other and to make the world a better place. He was unselfish and would go out of his way to help others. I really needed to be reminded of this today.
Yes thank you we do forget in all the fog off bereavement that we are making some posative steps going forward although we may not see it hopefully we all have a good day tomorrow…all take care
I ‘talk’ to my husband, as I know many of you do too. I said to him ‘So what do I do now?’ and the words that clearly came back to me were ‘Make the best of the rest of the time you that have.’ So thats what I am trying to do. I still miss him dreadfully though…especially in the middle of the night.