Hiya sarah86, my mum died on 12th Dec '15 and her birthday would have been 4th Jan, so not only Christmas and new year to get through but lack of birthday celebrations too. The funeral was on the 7th so just 3 days ago. It is such a weird period of the year as it is - no routine, the strange period of limbo between christmas and new year which can often feel bleak…let alone with the emptiness of the recent deaths of our mums. Well, I guess we have both got that dreaded ‘first christmas without her’ out of the way, and first birthday without her too for me.
I want to plan a series of long weekends away, maybe one a month, abroad. I think it will help to go somewhere different, on a regular basis, to get out of our own bubbles of home life and work and experience new places without the need to be away for too long, which I don’t think I’m ready for yet. Maybe next christmas should be abroad too. Might you plan to go away?
I also want to find something to do outside of work that gives me a sense of purpose. I want to get back into my art, I want to volunteer with a charity, I want to write about my experience with mum’s illness and death, not to publish, just for myself. Have you thought about writing about your experience? I believe it can be cathartic, and you can share it with people who you want to know what you have been through without the need to say it.