It will be a year on September 1st since I lost my husband . I have the first two weeks of September off because I wanted to have the 1st off and because I feel ready for a break from work having worked all through the pandemic and doing double shifts etc.
My daughter is going to work and said I should too to help take my mind off things but I’m doing that everyday already, my son will be at work too.
What did other people do on this awful day ( and more to follow I know) to help them get through it .
Thank you in advance Karen x
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The first year anniversary for me will be a couple of days before you reach your day.
I will be revisiting one of our favourite places, the majority of the day will be spent driving, with a couple of hours of spent walking and remembering.
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October 23 will mark one year anniversary of my husband’s passing. I remember the very second I got the phone call that he had died. I will stay home, pray for him, light a memorial candle- not answer phone or see anyone. It will be a day of tears I know. But I will get through it.
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Dear Karen
The first since my husband died in two weeks after your own. My son has taken day off work and asked his partner to take the kids to her mother’s. I suspect daughter will be off work. I intend to draw the curtains and just stay in darkness all day.
Take care.
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I’m coming up to June’s 4th year since she passed 17/11/17. What I tended to do was make sure I had both 17th and 18th off and was just on my own, going through old memories, looking at photos things like that. Can say for me that it’s not really gotten any easier and tend to re-live the last week we had together by that time she was in hospital and when looking back can see how she was slowly geting worse, think I blocked out that time was running out, though we knew she was terminal. Now just like to be on my own thinking of the good times we had, and listening to some of our favourite music.
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Karen. It’s almost 3 years for me. 1st Anniversary I invited my son, his partner and child over. I bought a gazebo and a firepit and as my Neil’s ashes are in a planter beneath a tree in my little garden we were all with him. We ordered takeaway pizzas and had a lot of alcohol. I had his photo by me and we celebrated his life. Raised a glass or 3 to him. The rest of his family and close friends all raised a glass at 7pm and sent me photos. His 2 sons joined us by Skype. I have to say that it was a lovely evening. Lots of tears but lots of laughs and memories. Since then I’ve gone downhill I think and chose to spend the 2nd anniversary alone at home. That had disaster written all over it. Think my son and family are coming here again for the 3rd one. It just so happens it falls on Halloween.
Whatever you do, I hope you are kind to yourself. It won’t be easy but you will get through it. So sorry Karen. Big hugs. Xxx
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My first year without my husband was on the 11th August 5 days after his 65th birthday so it was a very emotional week. Me and our 2 daughters decided to do what he loved doing most so we played golf and in the evening got an Indian takeaway. We remembered all the funny things he did we laughed and we cried just talking about him was comforting. So if you want to cry cry but also try think of a few things that made you laugh x
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. I wish us peace
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Amen to that.