I think if his health hadnt gone down hill so quick i wouldve just paid to go private ! I wouldve sold my house and lived in a caravan if it meant i could still have him !!! 
but it was all too late and stupidlt i thought the NHS knew what they were doing ! Huh ! X
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Dear Deb.
I said the same, let’s go private, we can afford it, but Peter wouldn’t hear of it. I even asked the specialist if I could be tested so I could donate one of my lungs to Peter but he said that he was so ill, he wouldn’t have made it off the operating table and that was four years before he died, we even got a second opinion so four years before he died he was too ill to have an operation.
At least we got eight years together 24/7 and that was wonderful, very, very hard but wonderful. So many people only get to be together when they are diagnosed and then die shortly after.
My sister was 47 and brother in law 68 when they both got cancer and the only time they got decent treatment was when they went into an hospice in the later stages of their illness. The hospices were fantastic, nurses around all the time.
Both our sons pay for private health care and their partners also. Our eldest sons partner had a knee replacement operation this year and is down for another one at the end of the year, no waiting list, it is up to her when she decides she wants it doing. Her mum, 83 has been waiting for a hip replacement for three years on the NHS and is in agony. Our other son’s wife’s mum went to see the GP last year for a lump in her breast and was told it was just gristle, she had to have her breast removed this year for cancer. Our daughter in law found a lump in her side just after she had given birth to our grandson, she went to the GP who told her it was to do with birth and would settle down. It didn’t so she asked for a second opinion and it turned out to be kidney cancer and she had to have her kidney removed. So she, her mum and dad have all had cancer and treatment in the last three years which should have been caught when they first went to see the GP but were put off as it not being serious. My dad died with a brain haemorrhage but was misdiagnosed as it being Asian Flu in the 1960’s. My sister was treated for women’s problems but died of Ovarian cancer.
This has been going on for years as the NHS got worse and worse and now it is not fit for purpose. To be honest, I am terrified of being ill.
I think it has got to the point that everyone should be able to take out private health insurance from when they are born but how many people can really afford to do that. I own my own house, I have a decent pension and private pension from Peter and I am comfortably off but I don’t have the thousands, and thousands of pounds in the bank needed to pay to go private.
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Yeh very worrying isnt it i think i feel more angry that he was in hospital year before and they “found nothing” yet the consultant said the cancer been there for at least a year !! and so in end it was too late ! That wasnt our fault it was theres ! !! Flipping crazy … i know they can never be perfect but the fact that they get so much wrong in the end feels like negligence to me he was only 60 my poor darling and he loved life ;( even his dad survived until he was 65 and that was 15/20 years ago ! I believe our NHS is actually killing people ! My mum who is 83 won’t even go to drs cos she doesn’t trust them ! Sad state of affairs isnt it xx
I don’t go to the doctors now, I get my repeat prescription which I have been taking for 20 years and not once have I had any tests to see if the tablets are working, I feel okay so they must be. I once rang up to have my cholesterol and blood pressure checked and was told they don’t do it anymore I have to go to the chemist and pay for it. I am on tablets for blood pressure and cholesterol yet no checks have been done. My friend has a different doctor and they are the same.
Two years ago I was really ill, and rang for a home visit, no way, I was told to go to a walk in centre, I told them I could not stand, never mind walk so they told me to ring 111 which I did, they, after twenty minutes on the phone sent out an ambulance and they checked me over and told me I was fine and didn’t need to go into hospital. I told them yes I do, my back is killing me and I can hardly breathe, so he said, well, you are talking okay so you can’t be out of breath. Anyway, they took me and and told me I had to walk to the ambulance, I fell down the drive but they just lifted me up and walked me to the ambulance. When I got to the hospital they wanted me to walk into A & E but I refused so they got me a wheelchair. I was tested and told I had double pneumonia, put on a antibiotic and paracetamol drip and kept in for a week.
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Lonely
Your story says it all about our NHS now. So many distressing stories in this forum. I do wonder where it will all end.
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Jeez … unbelievable ! The government need to sort it ! This country is going to pot xx i think we should all start marching ! Xxx
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Hi All
This topic is “What do we avoid”. Well I can say that I avoid the NHS like the plague. I want to live as long as possible and I don’t feel that a hopsital or GP’s are safe. I do my best by using natural therapy but mention this to a Doctor and you get the cold shoulder treatment. They don’t like us, we don’t take enough pills to make it profitable and that is what it is all about these days. I have always felt that my mother was murdered when admitted to hospital. My husband was doing fine on the Natural method until they started giving out their pills and he was dead within the year when he had lived happily with a good quality of life for nine years on alternative lifestyle.
I inherited some money years ago and keep it safe in case I need it for private treatment. I wanted to use it for my husbands care initially but there was nothing that could have been done in the end he went downhill too quick. I would also have sold the house if I could have saved him.
I just accept now that we have no decent medical treatment and we are on our own. And then they go on strike and risk yet more lives but that’s another story so don’t get me started.!!!
Pat
xx
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Yeh i know … its very true ! Funny old wotld we luce in these days - worlds gone mad ! They hsve to lump eveybody together ! Theres no individuality anymore is there. Yrh i would have used all my savings if i couldve saved my darling husband ! I do wish now i had taken him private when he got his diagnosis though… just for my own peace of mind so that i knew i had done everything i could but its probably a futile hope i just wish he was still here ! Miss him so much its soo not fair x
@Pattidot I agree with you. I don’t take any kind of medication ( fingers crossed ) hopefully that lasts!
I buy all my supplements from a company called British Supplements, was recommended by a friend. They are very good with no fillers etc…
I have private health care through work, even if I didn’t, I would join Bupa or whoever… I have read so many horror stories on this site, it frightens the life out of me! The NHS is not fit for purpose!!
Dottie x🌹
Hi Deb
I tried to get private care in the early days of my husbands diagnosis which was years ago but couldn’t get past his GP who told me if we went private we could never have NHS treatment again which I learned at a later date was a big fat porky and illegal for him to say this.
Pxx
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Hi Dottie
I also hope that I can keep going for as long as possible without medication which is something else I avoid. It does annoy me though when on the odd occasion I do see a Doctor and they say how lucky I am with my health. I’m not lucky I work at it with my lifestyle. Your right it is a horror story, who can we trust…
Pxx
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Yep its not good is it ? Right flipping mess is NHS but its all we got really especially if you cant afford anything else … my husband trusted them drs … i wish he hadnt - and im not saying the outcome be different but its just it doesnt fill you with confidence does it ? This country is in a damn mess innit everytime u watch news its depressing x
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@Pattidot That is absolutely shocking! How dare he lie like that; I hope you took that further.
I have not seen my GP for over 5 years, I have no desire to see anyone involved with the NHS.
Big hugs
Dottie x🌹
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@Deb5 Reading posts on this site has really opened my eyes. It is just shocking how badly people have been treated! We ALL pay for this service; the NHS receives billions per year of tax payers money, where does it all go?
You are so right, I’ve stopped watching the news, it’s all just too much at times, we are dealing with enough. I tend to put music on ( neutral, nothing that reminds me of my love) and read…
Big hugs
Dottie x🌹
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Dear Pat,
I started taking multi vitamins, garlic oil capsules, green tea capsules, Omega three capsules after I had pneumonia, anything to ensure I am fit and well and they must be working because I am 80 years old and can cut my 6 ft flowering bushes with a telescopic hedge trimmer.
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@Lotswife , I avoid the news, it’s too depressing. Also can’t watch football, rugby and F1, all the sports he loved. But I can look at photos and listen to music even if sometime I have a few tears.
Debbie xx
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Yep i agree with that xx
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My husband loved his sport too :(,hard to watch any of it now isnt it ? Xx
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Hi Sheila
I do the same plus zinc, Vitamin D3 and C and selenium which protects our immune system. I avoid flu jabs or any other jabs and rely on a more natural method and have never had the flu, or a cold for years and lately Covid. I look after my large area of allotments,do 2/3 hours of walking a day, Yoga, gym workouts, dancing and also feel that it must be working. I also AVOID GP’s and medication.
Recently there was a lady on TV who had reached 100 and when asked what she recommended for a long life she said “Never go near a Doctor”. !!!
Sounds about right…
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Hi Dottie
No we didn’t take it further as it was about a year later when I discovered this. Makes you think though what other lies we are told by people we should trust…
I also don’t watch the news nowadays. I don’t listen to sad songs or poems or anything that upsets me. No point.
P xxx
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