How true x
Thanks for poem
Absolutely. A friend tried to tell me that she thought grief isnt love, surely its fear. I know everyones entitled to their opinion but it left me feeling so angry and not heard.
What a strange opinion for someone to say they think grief is fear not love and yes it isn’t kind to say that to a person who is grieving when what is better is to listen and not contradict. I agree I got really put off by someone doing that to me because my feelings weren’t the same as theirs as if only her opinion must be right when all I needed was to be heard.
I was told by someone that I shouldn’t write to Roger or talk to him.
But that I should let him rest in peace.
What about my peace? Writing to him and talking to him really help me.
People should keep their opinions to themselves when they haven’t got a clue about grieving
Rant over
X x
I agree about that.
I got fed up when people kept on trying to force me to do what they wanted me to do and ignored what I said I preferred not to. They were not widowed so what did they know?
Exactly.
I wouldnt wish this on anyone though.
I sometimes wonder if I was one of those that spouted platitudes.
I hope not. I do know I was already to listen
I was going to the post office one Sunday morning to buy a newspaper and magazine to read not long after my husband died and someone said to me do you want to go to church? I replied that I didn’t see the point and that I had only come out to get my shopping. The person seemed to think that all I needed was the chance to go. But I wanted to be quiet not with the noise and having to cope.
She looked taken aback. Just because when she was widowed that is what she wanted. But it seemed to be pointless if it was just counter productive.
I didn’t want to be emotional and around masses folk when COVID was everywhere. It was last place I would go to catch that unnecessarily. I preferred to watch on zoom with the camera off. I felt pounced on and was I expected to please everyone else?