My wife of 36 years Diane sadly passed away on the29th of July 2021. 18 months later on the 29th Of January this year our sons first child and our third grandchild was born. Apart from the obvious grief of her passing which has not diminished, I am struggling to deal with what she is missing, what she would be so proud to see, how much she would have loved our new grandson and our sons partner. And missing out on seeing our other two grandkids growing up and doing amazingly well at school. It is ripping me apart inside.
I can empathize with you, my husband died in March 2021. He’s missed our oldest grandchild turning 18yrs, he would be so proud of the beautiful young woman she has become. He won’t get to see one of our other granddaughter’s dancing on the stage in London later on this year.
So much he won’t see as they all grow older, the careers they choose, maybe marry and have families of their own. Yes like you it breaks my heart that he will miss so much.
But we talk about dad, grandad all the time so we can keep his memory alive and they will never forget him. I’ve also just had a bench installed in our local park in his memory which is another place the family can go and feel close to him.
@Redev I fully understand this. My wife Diane died 28th October and my third grandson was born 29th January. She had felt the pregnancy bump in hospital and was looking forward to the baby as my son and his wife were moving in with us to have it here. It is one of the great sadnesses of my life she is not here to see him. He is called Aiden an anagram of my wife’s name. He gives me solace as I’m sure your little ones do for you but it is hard to deal with the grief of what she is missing.
I can really empathise with all of you. My husband was lucky enough to see all his grandchildren and I doubt there will be any more but there will be great grandchildren. I find it very painful thinking of all the other things he’ll miss too. Absolutely anything and everything that happens within the family or new things. It may sound stupid but I don’t want to do anything new because he won’t know about it and can’t be a part of it. I know it’s ridiculous but I can’t help it. Big cuddles to you all. Jean x.
@Jean8 It’s not ridiculous at all. It’s a natural part of grieving, missing him as he is not there to share the experiences and the joy with you. I have shouted out loud ‘why aren’t you here Di’ to my wife when I have done things we did together and things have happened I know she would have enjoyed. Big hugs.
It’s horrible my son got married my john wasn’t there I missed him so much going through the day without him lv annie x x c