What’s normal?

In the last six months I’ve lost my grandma who I was really close to, my best friend had stage 3 cancer (she is recovering thankfully) and my aunty passed away just after Christmas after a long and sad illness.

Ever since I just feel like I can’t do things I enjoy, all I really do is watch Tv and sit on my phone. I don’t read or cook much, I have an art class and it’s a real struggle to leave the house for it, I have a yoga class each week and I barely manage to go. I’ve started leaving the house more for walks but I struggle to listen to music or podcasts. I used to enjoy photography and now I can’t be bothered. I also love holidays and exploring and travelling and I just simply can’t be bothered with planning or doing anything.

I struggle to make conversation with people, even those close to me. I’m usually relieved when social plans are over or I can cancel them. I oversleep, I hate having chats with people at work but I force myself, I’d rather just be left alone. I am always tired or rundown and my body aches. I just feel really crappy in myself.

I’m really withdrawn from my romantic relationship and close friendships. I don’t want them to not be there I just feel insecure and I rarely feel any sexual desire with my boyfriend. I feel gross in myself and unhealthy.

I think I’m just really numb and feel crap and maybe am depressed. I guess I don’t know how much of this is normal.

I’ve never felt like this much before. I feel like my mind is so busy but it is also so empty.

I tried to have a bereavement counselling session today but because I had another bereavement of my aunty since I applied they said I have to wait a few months for time to pass. I just want to feel better really.

Any things that helped other people and is this a normal experience?

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Hi mum died 22 March last year. i was ok at first, went to gigs, met friends etc. Then in November completely crashed. Barely got out of bed, lots to do but no motivation to do it and forget making a decision! I had my haircut my hairdresser asked how i wanted my fringe, told her i dont care if you shave it all off!! There were so many decisions and questions my brain froze and shut down. Take care, go easy on yourself. I have found this community helpful, hope you will too.

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Thank you. I really appreciate your reply, it’s nice to know you aren’t alone in how you feel isn’t it. Hoping you’re doing ok

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Hi,

I lost my mum last November, and feel very similar to you, little to no motivation still. Would rather sit n the sofa all day in pjs than face the world!

This is good place to know you are not alone x