Lost my darling husband suddenly 10 days ago. I don’t have children and i feel so totally alone. I have good friends and wonderful parents (in their 90’s), brother and nephews. When do the tears and hurt stop?
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TT1, I’m so sorry for your loss, and that you are now in a group nobody wants to join. I wish I could give you good news and say that a certain point, the pain and the tears stop but sadly, it’s not like that!! I’m 13 weeks and 2 days in, and although it has got marginally better, the gut-wrenching, sickening pain has subsided but I still cry every day. You are so early into your journey so you need to just look after yourself, eat little and often, drink lots of water as you’ll easily become dehydrated and sleep when you can. There is lots of support here xx
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So sorry. It’s really hard going with grief. You have come to the right place for support. We are all in this together. It does get a bit easier with time I’m told.
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Hello @TT1,
I am truly sorry for your loss.
Truth is the tears and hurt never completely stop but they do subside. We learn to live with our grief and it becomes a part of us, just like our loved ones are a part of us. Ten days is no time at all so don’t expect too much of yourself. I’m pleased to read you have supportive friends and family. I hope you also find this site to be a support and comfort. Be kind to yourself. You are not alone
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Its 3 months for me today. I find it so difficult at the moment. Tears are just under the surface, waiting to burst. I miss my partner so much. I would give anything to have him back. I know that isn’t possible. This depth of sadness is unbearable. Each day gets longer.
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It will be two years 2 weeks time. I dont cry every day now. But was triggered on Sunday when unexpectedly I was suddenly reminded and it through me and couldn’t concentrate.
Got lump in throat instead. But dont always cry because of it but other things as a result of it set me off. Like can’t cope. Get over it. But am not as in a fog as i was but still nervous and overwhelmed at times.
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The tear’s and hurt will always be there. But not always on the surface
Eventually they well fade into the background. As time pass’s and the
tear’s and hurt. Start to ease but the memories will always be there.
of your loved one. And never fade away.
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