When does it get easier?

I lost my Grandma in July and it was quite sudden and unexpected. I cry every time I think about her and most days she crosses my mind. I think I am ok when I don’t think about it but I want to make sure I am processing things.

I’ve noticed that since July my emotions have been so up and down. I feel happy then sad then crying hysterically, I feel frustrated and short tempered but then at other times have no feelings at all.

I’ve felt like I don’t want to talk to people, have been withdrawn and have less emotional capacity for listening to others than I used to. I don’t really care about work I just get by. I’ve been lying aimlessly most evenings and days and it’s so hard to get up and do things. I’ve got no drive. I just feel exhausted and want to sleep. I get headaches all the time and constantly have a cold.

I think it’s been compounded by the fact that a month after my best friend was diagnosed with late stage cancer and I’ve been struggling with supporting her too. On top of this my aunty is on palliative care and I feel guilt for not supporting my mum enough.

Is this grief? Is this emotional exhaustion? Do they come as a package?

Can anyone help me with things they do to keep on top of daily life with grief? Everything seems so hard - even things I used to enjoy.

Thanks x

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Hi @Jfj,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your grandma that brings you here.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Suzy

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