So today I went to collect my husbands ashes. He had 3 grown up children, 2 Grandchildren and my son ,his step son. Over the past decade + he hardly had any contact with his children even though they lived close (not his choice) as my hubby was adopted his 3 kids where his only blood. However their Mothers new Husband their sep Dad had more to offer in the way of money.! My Nick wasn’t even at the wedding of his daughter the sep dad gave her away! she had a baby my husband was delighted to be a Grandfather he never got to see her, she is 3 now! eldest son had a baby he never even new his girlfriend was expecting, he found out when a careworker for his mum said " congrats" the youngest son had power of attorney for his Gran, Nicks mother, when she passed 8 months ago, My hubby received her bank statements ! and lets just say he was horrified, he said " his kids should want him, more than what they can get out of him!
Nick made a will well before we met leaving everything to his 3 kids, he changed policies and life insurances to my name, and he said he was going to have to change the will! however he said he would struggle not to leave his kids anything! but after the way he had been treated, he was told after we got married , the will would be revoked and everything would go to me, unless he made a new will, so he said to me , It was easier for him to leave it like that "! he was just too nice to actually say his kids get nothing !
When he died he thought he would leave the world the way he came into it, with no one! I always promised that he wouldn’t I would get his kids there for HIM and not for money ! yes the kids came and there when he passed now comes the BUT
I gave them all some of their Dads jewellery , and personal sentimental items, now just as I am leaving to collect Nicks ashes, the daughter messages, demanding to see their Dads will as she knows he left them all watches! how would they know what he had they never came to our house and never saw him ! oh but wait they asked for photographs of their Dad! of course they didn’t have any memories of their own! and there was me thinking they were looking at memories , they were clocking his gear! I feel so betrayed !
That is disgraceful bebaviour from them.i have 3 children from a previous marriage two dont want to know me.my daughter aderlaide has moved in with me after loosing my beautiful gorgeous late wife sue last year and my daughter turned to sue and said you have been more of a mum to me than my own mum ever was.hugs to you x
My husband was taken from birth for adoption, and I always promised he wouldn’t leave the world the way he came in, I hoped his children would be there for him, and not what they could get, appears i was wrong, I am gutted for him, I can’t stop thinking about it.
Is it possible that they were aware that he had previously written a will leaving them something but they don’t realise that Wills automatically become invalid when you marry? So they simply don’t know that there is no Will and that only you inherit under the rules of intestacy?
In which case could the daughter be asking to see the Will more out of ignorance rather than being grasping?
Obviously it’s hurtful for you either way but it’s one of the reasons I think it’s better if people are open about their Wills, to avoid expectations being built up then not met.
It’s unbelievable how people behave at these times, I had family members who loved the attention and behaved certain ways to get it. While I hid away (husband died at 52). Just over a year later nothings changed much with them
All I can say is do what you think is right if you believe he wanted them to have something there’s always trust funds for the grandchildren
I had already told her brothers that the Will was invalid after we got married , what upset me was they asked for photos of Him if they saw him three could of had photos of their own , then they were asking for raybans, watches , trainers that were in the photos of him ! I thought they wanted memories not items , I gave them all stuff of their Dads and she says it isn’t much ! Well it’s more than the time they gave to their Dad
Yes he has two grandchildren he never met the one who is 3 why I don’t he only met his sons baby once and now he thinks he has gained a free bus ticket , I once found a picture of his grandchild he never met on social media I asked him did he want to see the picture and he said NO what’s the point
Completely understand do whatever you think is right
That is so sad. Our grandchildren brought Neil such joy during his final years. It brings me to tears now seeing them growing up and realising he won’t see it.
Jane15.i can understand how it feels .one my wifes sons had two little girl myself and sue were gutted when his ex put the girls up for adoption and we never saw them again xx