Can someone please tell me when the pain and heartaches are going to get easier. It’s coming up to 16 weeks since I lost the love of my life and it’s getting harder to cope. I’m crying every day and all I do is look at his photos and keep asking him the same question over and over WHY did you have to leave me. I don’t know how much more I can take of this pain.
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So sorry for you’re loss
16 weeks is, no time
Its over a year since I lost my sister and I’m still asking why.
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I’m so sorry for your loss
Some losses you never get over 
In my thoughts take care stay safe 
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Sad2 I’m just the same as you I feel it’s got worse and I’m 8 months in . I wouldn’t wish this pain on my worst enemy . For me I think the longer I am on this lonely journey it gets harder because it becomes more real that Robs not coming back.
Since he’s been gone as well just about everything in the house has gone wrong . The cooker packed up the kitchen sink sprang a leak, the wash basin in the bathroom sprang a leak and water gushing through my ceiling in the kitchen, when the guy came to mend my sink in the bathroom he said my radiator need solid pipes on not flexible pipe. Now my sola panels have packed up I’m just at the end of my tether .
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Hi Kazzer.
The loss certainly is getting worse with each new day. It’s just so unreal that we are never going to see them again, talk to them and share everything with them. Life is so unfair and lonely.
Sorry to hear things are going so badly for you with regards to all your house problems. We need them with us more than ever when things go wrong, they always managed to sort the problems out one way or another.
I do hope you manage to get all the problems resolved without too much upset and worry.
Take care xx
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Sad2 I have got everything done but the sola panels I have scaffolding up at the min they were due to look at my panels tomorrow but bue to the weather forecast they are now doing the work on Tuesday it just mean I have to watch tv stuff on my iPad as the scaffolding had cut across y satilite dish
@Kazzer I have had loads of things go wrong with the house too. My fella would have a go at fixing everything. Just having someone to discuss things with was good. You are more proactive than me with regard to getting things fixed. I have just worked round everything so far. I lost half my electrics. Fuse box hadn’t popped so I can’t flick a switch. I am using extension leads from other sockets. Boiler is not right so need to get someone in for that, have done pressure but hot water is still not hot, it has had diverter valve and bladder problems in the past, and the place needs a paint job. I have bought some paint, but it didn’t come with a motivational video so it is still unopened. I do need to try and get things looked at though.
Wong when I had water coming through my ceiling i had to turn the water supply off isolate the leak and turn off the electric then I rang them up to come and fix it but 24 hrs later I still had no water or heating so I had to get my dogs and go to my daughters . Thankfully she lives on the same street but it’s not the point . Time is so stressful as it is without added extras. Rob always had a go at fixing things but he never actually finished them plus to get under a kitchen sink for him was hard as he was a big chap he was 6 ft 3inch and as wide as he was tall I felt so safe wherever we went even though he was a gentle giant
@Kazzer that made me laugh. My man was very keen to try and do things, but he never finished anything either!
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Hi sad2,
Aw, it is only sixteen weeks in for you - for me it is coming up to two and a half years (unbelievably) and I am still struggling with each day. Some parts of the day I am okay (ish) but the tears still come every day for me. I would love to tell you that things get better over time, but really I am still waiting for that to happen. I’m still trying to get used to a life without the love of my life too. I was with Eddie from 18 until he went into hospital on my 65th birthday and sadly died four days later. People seem to think all is ok now, but for me it never will be ok again. It has helped me to see how other people feel on here. Keep talking on here and wish I could help you more - virtual hugs to you xxx
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Hi Lesley18
How on earth have you coped with all the heartache for two and a half years? I really am so sorry that you are still in so much pain.
I’m finding it hard to believe that this is all real. I just want the pain to ease and to be able to try and have to live a new normal life, whatever that has to offer. I can’t imagine this is ever going to get better.
I still hear his voice, imagine that he’s coming through the door and just want everything to be back to where it was before he was taken into hospital with that horible Covid. I really thought and believed he would fight it and come home. I pleaded with him every day (and to God) to get better.
Once these tears start, they just don’t stop. Been crying since I drove home from shopping, all the sad songs on the radio - the words hurt so much even songs never really related to us both. Had to switch the radio off.
Thank you for you hug, wish I could feel a real one xx
Hi sad2,
You’re so right about the sad songs on the radio - I can only have the radio on low on a Sunday morning when my son comes for breakfast with the grandkids. I woke the other night as I thought I heard Eddie shout me. I called back to him and then suddenly realised with a shock that he couldn’t be here. This Covid has a lot to answer for - I can’t imagine how you feel. I guess without this happening your husband would still be here. I am quite scared for the future, and try to be so careful going up and down the stairs etc. I can still hear Eddie shouting “Les, slow down and stop running up and down the stairs”. Life is so hard without him xxx
Hi hun I’m the same I lost my beloved husband in February due to spontaneous internal bleeding I’m trying so hard to lead a normal as possible life but its do hard . As soon as I open my eyes in the morning I cry and throughout the day we couldn’t have children so am totally on my own and friends dont totally get how I’m feeling it’s hard hun and same as you I ask when will I think of him and smile without crying
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Hi Vonney,
Ah it is not long at all for you. I was sort of fine for a while - just had a wobble a few times. Now it is almost two and a half years and I cry every day for what we should have had. Life is so unfair sometimes, isn’t it? I guess I am lucky to have spent 47 years with my husband and also be with him at the end. It still doesn’t stop me wishing though that he could still be here and we could spend time together. One of my grandkids stayed over last night, but as soon as her mum came to pick her up, she said to her “Nanny was upset last night”. I told her mum I was just a bit upset at one point, and I know I am lucky to even have grandchildren (my son and daughter-in-law have been together 21 years and had IVF which so very luckily resulted in Isla who is 8. I don’t want to put this on an 8-year-old though - need to take a chill pill. I wish at this point I could guarantee that things will get better (and I sincerely hope they do for you) but for me I am still wishing and hoping xxx