Since the service, 3 months ago, I’ve hardly heard or seen anyone .
One neighbour has been marvellous knocking on the door several times to make sure I’m ok. A dog walking friend fantastic and ex neighbour supportive .
Particularly upsetting is a friend my partner and I helped time and time again over the last 20 years, with lifts, household problems and looking after her dog. She has phoned me 5 times , once to see how I am, all the rest to ask for help.
Another friend who I helped through a very difficult divorce and job loss, hasn’t been in touch at all, not even a phone call.
A cousin and his wife haven’t called me at all, despite all the support we both gave them following his mother’s death and their wedding.
A couple of other people have given unasked for and very upsetting “advice”- telling me " I’ve got to come to terms with it " " to stop moping about" " and " you need to move on"
You’re not being selfish , I think unless people have been in this situation they have no idea how long grieving goes on for.
There are some people I’d rather not have around, I feel lonelier with people around who don’t understand how sad and upset I feel .
Take care, Jx