Since losing my husband I have not felt truly well. I am light headed and dizzy. My digestion is all over the place. I don’t sleep so am both physically and emotionally exhausted. When will I start at least feeling healthy again? Scared the fluid I had around my lungs is returning. The only way they found it last time was by x ray. Then my darling husband was with me every day in hospital. Feel guilty I could not do the same for him when he was dying. How could I face another hospital stay without him?
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Hi Sandra, I am so sorry you are feeling so unwell. The symptoms you describe often appear to be related to grief with all its stresses, and lack of sleep and crying which causes the exhaustion.
I do not sleep well and feel light headed and dizzy in the mornings, Often get a headache. My digestion was all over the place, but now that my diet has improved, it’s not so bad. You sound much worse than I am and I know that you have mobility problems which makes life so much more difficult for you, particularly not being able to at least go for a walk.
You probably don’t like the idea but, have you thought about requesting a home visit from your GP? He/she could at least examine you and put your mind at rest about your lungs problem. I think you really ought to think about it. Norman would want you to be looking after yourself,
Love, Rosemary x
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Neither the gp nor the paramedics could hear anything wrong with my lungs last time. Only when I couldn’t even walk to the loo without panting was it suggested I self present to a&e where they gave me 3 scenarios as to what caused it. Pneumonia, cancer or heart failure. They have now ruled out cancer ( ct scan) and heart failure ( echo) so it must have been pneumonia. If I keep feeling like this I will try contacting the GP.
Thanks . Rosemary
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And here I am. Another Sunday crying my eyes out. Keep thinking he will walk in the door any minute. Then the realisation hits.
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i am also crying all the time it seem to be getting worse my husband been gone 9 days and it seems like forever ,I carnt bear it but what can we do
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After 9 days it is all you can do. This is after 8 weeks. I don’t cry all the time now and I don’t howl like a wounded animal anymore but it is still so hard and lonely.
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My lovely brother has just rung me with a terrible cold to tell me about his holiday. He has his own worries as whilst my husband died without a lot of notice, his wife is being kept alive by chemo. They don’t know how much longer that will last. He still thinks to ring me to see how I am. He just knows it is coming and making the most of the time they have while she feels well.
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Hopefully your chat with your brother has helped make you feel better. Distraction and talking to others makes us feel so much better and helps the day go past. It is lovely when people do reach out to us but it doesn’t seem to happen as much as it should. Hope you feel a bit better today than yesterday. I found it took a while for my sleep to improve - probably several months but you will get there.
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I should feel better today as I am taking my first excursion. Going to a seated exercise class at the local centre. Taxi arrives 09:15. Then a friend is taking me out for a ride so a busy morning at least. Talking to my brother does help as he has some concept of what I am going through and what is to come for him.
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I’ll report back later.
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Excellent, I hope you have an enjoyable morning. It’s good that your brother has some idea of what you are going through.
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I made it. I haven’t been since before covid and a few people were still there. Getting up from the chair was the worst and couldn’t manage some of the exercises but determined to go again next week. Super helpful taxi driver. She is well known in the area. Helped me when one leg didn’t want to get in the car. Next trip today . Drive to get some wool with a friend. You are all right it did me good and I am glad I went. It will be good for me both mentally and physically.
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New neighbours moving in tomorrow. Offered them the use of my drive as I don’t have a car. Something to watch. See what their furnishings are like. See what they are like. Something to take my mind off things
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Great news @Pudding, so pleased you had a good morning. You can now look forward to next Monday. Mine wasn’t so good, had to sort out an account with Barclays. Hope you enjoy your ride for wool. I’m at the dentist at 2pm.
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Nice ride in the rain for wool and got some bread from a fantastic bakery. If the weather gets nicer my friend is going to take me to Ham Hill for an ice cream. Set me up for the rest of the week. Hope the dentist is just a check up and all goes well @Rome18 .
Hugs. Sandra xxx
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Back from the dental hygienist, so that’s done for three months.
So glad today’s outings have really helped you. Hopefully, you will sleep better tonight.
Fingers crossed the weather improves and you get your ice cream.
Xx
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I doubt I will sleep well as my knees are killing me after the exercise. Must hit the pain killers. Got to try and do some of these exercises every day. I find the hygienist can sometimes by as painful as the dentist. My appointment with dentist is in October. Missed last year as I was just out of hospital. Xx
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It will probably be a good idea to take some painkillers tonight. It would be so good if you could get a few hours of better sleep.
I don’t like the hygienist work either but mouth not too bad today, about to get a cuppa.
Love Rosemary xx
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Pudding i keep wondering why hasn’t sue rang me and then it hits me. Another thing i do is think oh i,ll ring sue and let her know that its on Netflix and again it hits me that i will never be able to ring my gorgeous beautiful fantastic sue. Feel so drained and tired ,plus other health problems are starting to play up again and prosthetic leg is playing up and my right knee is deviating which is the one for the prosthetic leg
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