i lost my hubby in september we have been together since i was 13 yrs old it would have been our 30th wedding anniversary this coming February i am struggling so much who am i I have never been single everyone keeps saying i have to try and create a new life for myself but how
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Sorry to hear of your loss and understand your issue.
Trying to reinvent (if that’s the word) yourself is something I’m struggling with tbh as I always had routine etc.
I don’t know where you are located but up in Scotland I have found there is something called ‘social prescribers’ that once you feel up to it can contact and they can help you connect with groups with similar interests.
I understand this will be the last thing on your mind just now but maybe I’m the future 
x
Keep posting as lots of people on here offer great comfort and advice x
It’s hard when we are used to being a pair. It doesn’t help being Xmas I know how you feel I lost my husband in August and it doesn’t seem real. I’m not doing Xmas this year told all my friends not to send cards and presents (not all have managed to do this). Going away for Xmas as I don’t think I can stay here thinking of previous Xmas. How do we create a new life, we can’t without our loved ones.
Dear Carol I feel for you. My first husband and I were together from when I was 18years old. I know it doesn’t compare with your life. I was 46 when he died. I found it so difficult as I was alone and not very independent.
You will survive but it takes time and courage. In my case before too long my guardian angel sent David who became my second husband.
David died Nov 2020. Deeply loved sadly missed. I had another 24 years happiness with him.
Eventually you will make another life for yourself you are relatively young. For now you must concentrate on your grieving. I’ll keep you in my prayers.
Tricia
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Well I survived Xmas and new year also it was my birthday new years day right now I don’t think it will ever mean anything again its 14 weeks now since he passed I never knew that pain like this could be real
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this is the hardest thing. how to create a brand new life after a loss.
when your life is wrapped around other people, what life is there then?
it is very very hard and this world makes it harder. all it offers is tech and less real people interaction. therefore, if people make a life, how can we even replace them. so hard.
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